Totally hypothetical maintenance query about a lottery win

[Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep]

So a friend bought me a lottery ticket. The prize is proper FUCK YOU money. I will, obviously, not actually win this, but I have been pondering.... would you, in this situation, still expect your ex to pay maintenance?
If it makes any difference he had an affair and left, he earns enough that he's obliged to pay £500 a month for 2 kids he sees EOW and 1 weekday evening. The part of me that's black and white logical says why bother? I wouldn't need the money, he should keep it to give the kids a better time when they're with him. The more emotional side of me thinks "well, they're still his kids. Shouldn't he still contribute towards them even if their mother doesn't need the money? "

It's all totally hypothetical obviously but I'm unemployed currently and my kids are glued to a screen and not killing each other so I'm scrolling mumsnet and daydreaming.

Also is it very dull and middle aged that my very first call would be to my financial adviser? I do love saying that. So far he's only advised me about setting up a pension with STBXs pension Contribution from the divorce but I'm sure 180m would be more fun for him as well as me

So.... in this hypothetical situation what would you do?

I'd be tempted to give him 100k as a gift (there's a snide backstory to that particular amount ) and expect him to keep paying maintenance. Fair?

I'd be tempted to give him 100k as a gift (there's a snide backstory to that particular amount )

You must really want to make a point
Yes, I think I'd go along with your plan to make him keep paying - maybe a lesser amount, so you sort of keep the moral high ground? Mind you, you've got that anyway, if you're giving him that amount of money as well - the most generous 'up yours' gesture I've ever heard of! I hope you'll opt for anonymity and never tell him how much you've won?

Meant to say Good Luck! Update us if you win

I'd make him still pay, but mine pays me £10 a week....so I just let the kids have it.

I wouldnt... but then XDH has always been a great Daddy and happy to pay his fair share, and more when needed.

If the ex was paying the legal CMS amount only as that what the law says, then they need to keep paying as thats what the law says. Fuck them

I need to know why on earth you would give your affair-indulging ExH 100k.

If you want to feel better about having lots of money you can give it to me instead. I’ve never cheated

Why give him 100k? Come on, do tell..

I'd insist he keep paying it, because they're his children and he should, but I'd probably give it to charity every month.

I wouldn't make him pay under any circumstances. But I might enjoy being goady

My DC are adults now.

But the way he was with us? Yes, I'd make him pay.

And on top of that, I'd use the lottery money to buy the houses either side of him and fill them with students and boom boxes and barking dogs. And sewage.

@DDIJ, and I would fund a high profile judicial review into how the DWP / CMS and HMRC (ie the Government) have knowingly failed, for years, to collect child support for children from deadbeat parents (mostly men) who are under-declaring their self-employed earnings.

I wouldn't give him the £100k, I'd do a donation on his behalf to a charity he'd really hate

I always daydream I would give him a mil so he can keep the kids in the manor they enjoy with me. Saying that though there was no cheating and we get on really well.

In your situation I would definitely make him carry on paying and I would take great joy in spending that exact money on my hair/nails/shoes.

I wouldn't tell my child's dad that I had won. He is a very unpleasant narc who chooses not to see our DC. I would still expect him to pay maintenance and hell would freeze over before I'd give him a penny.

I wouldn't tell him how much, no, butbit would become very obvious something was up!

And don't worry, I have many plans for charities and governmental reform I will hypothetically push through.

And the backstory? 6 months before he cheated he made me move for his work. Against my better judgment, a long distance from my family and support network. My parents realised a certain amount of capital from their house which they gifted us to allow us to buy a house. In the divorce settlement he has very 'generously' allowed me to keep this amount, but I have had to cede any spousal support etc despite the fact I've been SAHM and wife for ten years, tanked my own career and am now RP to two lovely kids with adhd, so there you go. Snide backstory. Have this, pay your maintenance and fuck you.

I think I'd put all the maintenence into a trust fund for the cats, for whom I'm solely financially responsible despite the fact we got them jointly. No pet maintenance rulings, are there? But their medical bills are eye-watering...

I am loving some of the more petty suggestions, btw. I am actually a nice person (/doormat) so I doubt I'd be able to be a total cow, but it would be nice to have a modicum of power for once....