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Missed miscarriage

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Frankie85 · 23/02/2021 17:11

I should be 10 weeks pregnant today with my first baby but I had some pain and went for an early scan yesterday to be told that the baby looked only 6.5weeks but had no heartbeat. I was devastated as we'd tried for so long to get pregnant. I'm 36 years old so fear I've left it a little late. It was made even more difficult by the fact that you cant take anyone with you for support because of covid so was on my own and couldn'treally take in what the nurse was telling me.

I have to go back tomorrow to pick up the tablets to insert myself at home to hurry the process along. I'm terrified of the pain and the amount of blood but luckily my partner and I have the rest of the week off work.

I am so scared that if we try for another baby that this will happen again, I'm scared of how long it will take to get pregnant again. I'm just in a really miserable place at the moment. We were so happy to be expecting our first child and had I not made a fuss about seeing someone because of the pain, I'd still think i was pregnant. I kept being told it was just stretching pains even though I was told that stretching pains were in the middle of your tummy and my pains were always on the sides.

Anyway, I will stop going on. I just needed to get this off my chest.

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justchecking1 · 23/02/2021 17:52

I'm so sorry.

Don't let it put you off trying again. A single miscarriage really can be a once only event. I know it's really hard to imagine going through it all again but it's far from a certainty

BlueBrush · 23/02/2021 19:19

I'm so so sorry. It feels, devastating I know, especially as you're preparing to go through the physical process while also starting to come to terms with the emotional side of it. Just be really kind to yourself. Hopefully, you've got a supportive partner - lean on each other. Give yourself plenty of space and time to grieve, if you want to, and don't underestimate the amount this can take out of you physically. Take time to recover. You will get through this.

My first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage. I was in my mid thirties. I had one period afterwards, and felt ready to start trying again, and I got pregnant straight away. I now have two healthy energetic children who are currently being lectured by my husband about the state of their room!

I hope it goes ok. Flowers

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