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Cynthia13 · 23/02/2021 13:18

Posting here for a bit more traffic. Apologies in advance this maybe long. Hope you lot can help me, my head is all over the place with various things and now having to think about myself i am at a loss!

Always suffered heavy painful periods, had ovarian cysts in the past had endless scans etc and some horrible treatment by so called hcps. (think comments along the lines of, the pain isn't that bad every woman has periods just deal with it..!) I have just delt with it until oct last year when the bleeding just wouldnt stop, had horrific pain in my back and legs and a lump protruding from my abdomen. Gp saw me in person as i explained i was worrisd it was another cyst. He reffered me to gyne. I had both external and internal scans, which revealed in the sonographers words "5 massive fibroids" (3 inside uterus and 2 outside) they also found a polyp hidden behind one of them. I stupidly didnt ask the sizes etc. She did tell me the types but i just can't remember, but she used the words "you have a full house" meaning i have several different types. She said I'd need to speak with my gp regarding treatment options. But she hinted that I could be looking at a hysterectomy.

Spoke to gp who literally said, yes you've got substantial fibroids and a polyp. Ive reffered you to the hospital as there is nothing i can personally do for you . End of conversation . I wanted to ask him what tratement options were etc.

Anyway my apt is over the phone on thursday. I currently look pregnant, have constant period pain, bach ache, migraines , ive gone up 3 trouser sizes, constantly need a wee, spotting in between periods etc and I've had people at work ask me when the baby is due. I'm exhausted and worn out.

Because if the time between apts and dr not explaining anything I've been playing with dr google (bad idea i know) there seems to be 3 main options medication (had them in the past with horrific side effects)
ablation - both of my sisters have had this for different reasons. It didn't work and left them in agony and the problems came back so am adverse to trying this. Even nhs website says its not a cure they can come back etc.
Hysterectomy. This is the treatment i want. I have had over 25 years of hell, i dont want to be trying shit that may or may not work. I just want the little feckers out of me, to not be in constant pain and discomfort. To not have to rely on painkillers to get through the day etc. Its affecting my job, home life-everything really.

What do i say? How likely am i to get a hysterectomy? Im 36, 2 children and certainly dont want any more. What questions do i need to ask?

Sorry for the long rant, I'm dealing with alot atm and my head is in a total fog. Please give me some advice!

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AliceSprings123 · 23/02/2021 13:34

No questions necessary! Statements of fact - you're 36, you have 2 children and have no intentions of having any more - your Dr. will have your full gynae history, so you don't ASK for a hysterectomy, you DEMAND one, please, so that you can get on with your life!

Worked for me, at the QE hospital,B'ham. Clear that brain fog away and go forward with determination that this is the best solution for you!

All the best.

flatpack1 · 23/02/2021 13:36

Where I am the GP or consultant has to apply for funding for a hysterectomy. The funding panel look at the clinical picture and the way it is affecting your daily life so make sure you are firm about you and your DP decision your family is complete and list all of the symptoms you have mentioned above and how your life and that of the children/DP is being adversely affected by all of it. Write it down before they phone so you dont forget anything. Ask what all the options are medically and surgically and how long roughly before you will get treatment, what the success rates are, side effects, ask if you can be seen at the local private hospitals under the NHS (this could be a quicker route to being seen by the same consultant)

Cynthia13 · 23/02/2021 15:01

Thank you both for your replies. I'm usually ok at dealing with this stuff but my head has gone blank. Dmum been admitted to hosp this week - I'm her carer, still working full time and 2 dds with their own issues as well as the whole lockdown shit etc i just want it sorting and don't want to mess up and be told no. I'm adamant that that is the treatment i want as i cant carry on the way i am. Thank you again.

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