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Feeling a bit sad after today's briefing

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VampireTheBuffetSlayer · 22/02/2021 23:18

I'm really glad that lockdown is lifting in the foreseeable. I know a lot of people have found it so tough being away from their loved ones. But I don't have anyone in my life that I've missed, and everyone's joy and excitement is making me feel sad. I don't have any close family. Friendships have taken a hit over the last year with no physical contact and shared nights out to laugh over, there's been little to talk about.
This isn't a begrudging post so please don't judge me - I am glad that society is opening again and really happy for my friends that there is an end in sight. It's just, for me, things probably aren't going to change that much.
Am I the only one in this position?

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NoMackerelInSwindon · 22/02/2021 23:20

No, there will be others. But we are on the cusp of change - you never know what may happen next.

Augustwhatacrapname · 22/02/2021 23:20

You can rekindle your friendships though and will start to have lots to talk about again xx

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VampireTheBuffetSlayer · 22/02/2021 23:27

@Augustwhatacrapname

You can rekindle your friendships though and will start to have lots to talk about again xx

Maybe. But the focus of Zoom chats has made me see some of my friends quite differently. Thanks for the positive message though, hopefully you are right

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GreenClock · 22/02/2021 23:27

Your friendships will thrive again OP.

I know what you mean though. Numerous people will be taking stock of their lives and feeling low. And it’ll be hard for them when other people are excitedly arranging things with each other in June.

LunaHeather · 22/02/2021 23:33

OP I am not quite in the same boat as you

But lockdown has changed me a lot and it's changed so many of my friends, the friendship landscape is definitely not going to back to what it was. I made peace with that so I hope you can too

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VampireTheBuffetSlayer · 23/02/2021 00:28

Luna

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tunnocksreturns2019 · 23/02/2021 00:35

Bless you. I feel a bit like this too. I just want to spend time with my late DH.

ParkheadParadise · 23/02/2021 00:39

I hope 2021 is a good year for you @VampireTheBuffetSlayer

starfish88 · 23/02/2021 02:17

Once hobbies are allowed to start back (depending on whether they are indoors or out) maybe take up some new classes and meet some friends. I'm hoping to join some sewing groups and maybe start yoga (although I'm not flexible or Sporty). I would love to convince DH to try pottery with me too. It will be. A great chance to meet new people and make friends.

SugarfreeBlitz · 23/02/2021 08:33

I get it. Most of my conversations are with passing acquaintances. I lost some friends early on in lockdown and missed people initially but have adapted and feel blessed in my own household but am not alone here. My life will not change much when things "open up" as I still have no one who wants to go for a walk or out for a coffee with me. Probably because I'm boring and a workaholic, but I am that way because I don't have a lot else. Vicious circle!

Labobo · 23/02/2021 08:42

OP, you can start to make new friends once lockdown lifts. That has been impossible over the last year.

userxx · 23/02/2021 08:51

Push the zoom rubbish aside and get back out there with your friends once it's allowed.

ThePlantsitter · 23/02/2021 08:55

I think we've been locked down so long/often we've forgotten how to be normal with other people, but it won't take long to remember. We all think we're depressed but I think must of us will realise we're just restricted. Joy is mostly getting able to do what you want.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 23/02/2021 09:00

the focus of Zoom chats has made me see some of my friends quite differently.

Don't hold Zoom against them in real life - some people just can't relax and be themselves on screen. Ask them to go for a walk and a coffee, have a long chat in person, and you may find the connection is still there.

LDParty · 23/02/2021 11:36

I wouldn't hold zoom against anyone. Most people feel awkward and struggle. My takeaway would be that they wanted to keep in touch and did their best to do so.

AdventureIsWaiting · 23/02/2021 11:56

I know what you mean OP. Would it help to think of other things instead? I don't have many friends but I was happy yesterday thinking about the ability to go out on day trips, go back to the office properly, (eventually) not wearing masks in shops (I have ASD so this is a big thing for me), able to safely go on UK holidays etc.

guest2013 · 23/02/2021 12:02

Not quite the same but I had a very active social life before all this and have now gotten quite used to the quieter life. Saved money and also got fairly healthy. Yesterday after the announcement, my WhatsApp groups were full of excited planning and I felt pretty anxious. The pressure to have to go back to all that is a lot.
However, I think its normal to feel anxious/down about change and this feeling will pass and we will just get used to whatever the future will be, just like we got used to this.

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