This sounds stupid but how do you meet people?

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Watching it’s a sin this evening ... texting my aunty at the same time .

I came out as a lesbian two or three years ago . I’ve never done anything about it as such . Went on one disastrous not quite date and that’s it .

I don’t know how to meet people ! I’m diagnosed with mild ASD which probably isn’t helping, and grew up catholic/rural so never much exposure to anything LGBT, if at all except for the telly .

My aunt texted saying I owe it to myself to try things out ... but how?! It doesn’t seem so easy being gay; tinder isn’t the greatest, the others are hardly used.

How do you meet others? I’m at uni which you would think would open up conversation but being as it’s university of zoom currently, that’s not so easy!

And even if I did meet someone, how do I explain I’m a virgin, and have never dated, surely most sensible people would run a mile? Or do I just not say?!

I’m fat as hell too, so probably not approaching any of this with a great deal of self confidence - which won’t help, I know .

All of my friends I have met through school (only 3 or 4 I still see from school), University, work, my husband or through having children.

Once Uni gets going again and you can socialise more freely I am sure you will meet people.

I imagine your Uni has an LGB society? Join that and go for drinks and socials as soon as you can!

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Lockdown doesn’t make meeting people easy though! Are there any clubs through your student Union?

There is an LGBT soc yes, but pretty inactive at the moment . I’ve met people through my course, but they’re all much younger than me, and a very small group too (only 30 of us) .

I did have friends through work yes .

I suppose what doesn’t help is that I’ve never had an ID card so maybe that’s my first goal, which would open up going to the pub etc .

It's not stupid at all. It's good to ask these things - there will definitely be someone lurking and reading this who is relieved you did.

I think it's a mixture of things. Online dating. I'm guessing there might be LGBT socials at university or organised through Facebook, but those might require a bit of patience as the pandemic winds down. Chatting to LGBT on Tiktok or Instagram maybe? I keep seeing people saying they're meeting partners that way. And other than that keep connecting with people however you can. Maybe there is an ASD support group online specifically for those who are LGBT - maybe there is an ASD support group that is broader than that but you'll find yourself getting chatting to someone who you then get close to. I think once life opens up you just have to get out and meeting people as much as you can. It's not easy getting started but it is definitely worth pushing yourself out your comfort zone. I'm sure you are lovely and have a huge amount to offer someone. Lots of people are carrying extra weight these days and lots find it attractive anyway.

My niece met her (lesbian) partner by beginning to chat to her on Instagram. By using the #LGBT on her posts, like-minded students began to comment/chat, she has made many friends this way.
Her partner is a student at a different Uni in the same city.