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WWYD? Overseas / Moving House / Covid

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Newfor2021 · 21/02/2021 14:26

Hi,
I thought I’d ask people their opinions on what, if anything they’d do in mine and my friends shoes.

I’m based in the UK. Best friend moved to another country in Europe just over a year ago with her partner.
He sadly died in Dec.
She has to move out of their house by mid April. This was set to be their dreams house for life so it has a couples full life’s worth of possessions if that makes sense.
The issues are:
No family or friends in the new country.
She has just been diagnosed with a herniated disc and is waiting nerve result tests to see if she needs an operation (she had an emergency one for the same condition about a year ago when she suddenly collapsed after months of pain).

This means she can’t drive / stand / walk / or do very much for any length of time.

Her parents are both elderly living in another country and are also frail and ill.

Due to huge costs associated with her partner dying money is now very restricted.

Right now her only option is to slowly move out - either sending stuff to her parents or back to the UK, and doing this alone in an isolated property, when her back is worse than a year ago when she collapsed.

The lease on the property can’t be extended and the owners have already put it back up for sale. (They we’re doing a rent to buy scheme).

In normal circumstances I would jump on a plane and go help her move house!
How can I help her? Any ideas or suggestions please wise mumsnetters?!!

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ScoobyBlues · 21/02/2021 14:37

Can she not get rid of some of her things so there isn't as much to move? That might make her a little bit of extra money too.

She needs to get a quote for packing and removals and get that money somehow. You could give her the money you would have spent on going over there to help.

She's in a very difficult situation and the only way out of it is money it seems to me.

Newfor2021 · 21/02/2021 15:51

@ScoobyBlues Yes, she is planning to sell as much as she can.... however not sure how easy that is to do given she’s about 30 mins up in the mountains in the middle of nowhere.

I only have about £500 I can spare - not sure that’s going to help much with a move but have already offered her money which she’s refused.

It’s an awful situation, she’s been there for me through some really horrific stuff and now her life has suddenly turned upside down and I can’t even be there for her Sad

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