How do I get out of Zoom catch-up without looking rude

[chocolatesaltyballs22]

I'm done with Zoom socialising. I spend all day on video calls for work and the last thing I want to do is talk to people via a screen on a weekend. A group of friends organised a zoom catch up a few weeks ago. I made an excuse at the time. But now there's another one today. How do I get out of it without looking like a bitch?! I only see these friends a couple of times a year in normal times. I honestly can't face it. Help me!!!

I have a group of friends who plan zoom catch ups every other week. Honestly I find it so draining and wish I could make an excuse.

There’s only 4 of us. 1 of them spends the whole time complaining about her job and how much work she has to do. 1 is always tired so leaves after 15-30mins and the other doesn’t make much conversation. I leave every call feeling completely drained by them. I’m not sure if it’s just zoom fatigue or whether we’re just not compatible as a friendship group anymore.

@Inthevirtualwaitingroom

i think you should forgive your friend *@Gwenhwyfar*

She hasn't asked for forgiveness.

@Gwenhwyfar I think you're being a bit harsh. You don't know what people are going through.

[quote chocolatesaltyballs22]@Gwenhwyfar I think you're being a bit harsh. You don't know what people are going through.[/quote]
What she was going through was that she couldn't be bothered with Zoom. That's all.

@Pizzaandgarlicdip

I have a group of friends who plan zoom catch ups every other week. Honestly I find it so draining and wish I could make an excuse.

There’s only 4 of us. 1 of them spends the whole time complaining about her job and how much work she has to do. 1 is always tired so leaves after 15-30mins and the other doesn’t make much conversation. I leave every call feeling completely drained by them. I’m not sure if it’s just zoom fatigue or whether we’re just not compatible as a friendship group anymore.

Sounds like you could do with another one or two people. I do think that without Zoom some 'friendships' are carried by action i.e. you do things together rather than just talk, but if there's no conversation there, there's not much point really is there.