How to get over rejection for the perfect job?

[rainbowcakes]

Got rejected for the perfect job for me this afternoon (internal to the company i work for).

I had the interview on monday, it went brilliantly and ive been on tenterhooks all week waiting to hear back.

A requirement was to have a particular qualification but you didn't necessarily need lots of experience in the actual job it relates to, as they wanted someone to build up into the role.

Got the call this afternoon to say i wasnt successful, as other candidates had more experience. To be honest, the feedback couldnt have been better. They said it was a really difficult decision and they were really impressed with my experience etc. They also said that if anything came up on their team in the future they would be in contact. So that's great.

However, im just gutted. Been crying on & off since. It was just the most perfect opportunity to to use my qualification in a role where you didnt need experience doing the actual job. I KNOW another 'perfect' job will come up, they always do. But i always seem to be pipped to the post. My salary would have doubled as well. I was trying SO hard not to get my hopes up.

Any words of wisdom to make me feel better? I know it will pass but it all just feels a bit raw at the minute, especially combined with lockdown just want to curl up & cry but i know i need to pull myself together, especially as i have an 18 month old!

They're tossers.

Who wants to work with numpties that can't see the best candidate is you

come over here and get you an your bairn a wee treat for the morning...

Your username is perfect for the place!!!

I've been there. Applied for my dream job. Internal applicants only. I was led to believe that I had an excellent chance of being appointed. Didn't get appointed. I was so angry and disappointed. I'm afraid the only thing that helped was time healing. Eventually.

It's hard isnt it. I've been there before and imagined myself in the job despite knowing I couldn't bank on doing it.

I would try to focus on the good feedback, it sounds like you are on the right track to getting exactly what you want. Keep at it and I'm sure you will get the chance you deserve.

It's really good that you made a positive impression. It means you'll be in their minds for future opportunities

@00100001 fantastic! Rainbow cake for me please! 🌈 🍰

@AntiHop so sorry to hear this happened to you. Its just the worst feeling isnt it, so crushing. Time will definitely help the healing, just hard to imagine right now. I know (hope) i will look back at this thread one day & be really glad i didnt get this job!

@PrincessTuna so easy to start imagining yourself in the role!! And how you'd spend the extra money trying really hard to focus on the good feedback & hoping something else comes up in that department soon

I'm so sorry to hear that, that sucks.

I was in a similar situation a few years back. The perfect role came up at a great company. I was gutted to be told I had come a really close second, I was upset about it for ages.
About a year later, I got the chance to go on an internal secondment which gave me the chance to develop my skills in a whole new area. Really loved the work and it led to my current job which is a perfect fit for me.
So please don't give up hope. Your ideal job is out there, it might not be what you expect just now but I promise it will be even better than you imagined.

It is like being rejected over someone else by someone you fancy. It is hard not to take it personally. All I can say is like relationships, it cannot be forced. Another one will come by and may be the best fit you could not have dreamed of yourself.

I do think of the jobs that got away.

[Flowers]

Thank you everyone for your kind words.

I feel a bit better today. Decided i was allowed this weekend to feel a bit down about it and have a chance to process it, then return to work tomorrow and throw everything i have at my current role.

I may also contact the manager and ask not for interview feedback (as it was brilliant), but for ways i could develop my experience further for the next opportunity on his team.

Sounds like a plan. Something is just around the corner. Good luck and hang in there.

I interviewed for my dream job and was the only candidate ( the other one didn't turn up ) and I still didn't get it despite it going really well. I cried too, I was gutted. It was just a lack of management experience but to be honest there wasn't a lot of managing to do.
Another opportunity will come up, just try to take comfort from the fact that you interviewed well .