Has anyone had a horrible boss who’s soften after mat leave?

[Oyyoucow]

We have a horrible boss. Pulled up for bullying and behaviour a number of times. The climb over anyone to get to the top type

Shocked us all yesterday by telling us she is off on mat leave in a month (thank god). No idea she was even pregnant

Hoping people might have stories of horrible bosses who went on mat leave and returned as lentil weaving earth mothers .

Do you have a child? Did maternity leave fundamentally alter your work demeanour? It seems to me quite a weird supposition. If you were right, all bullies and people who abuse power would be child-free, and that’s patently untrue.

Yes I do, 3 of them. And like most people, having a child fundamentally changed who I am. But I wasn’t a rabid cow in the first place so...

This isn’t a “my boss is so mean” post without merit. She’s reduced staff to tears. Been hauled to tribunal for discriminating against a disabled junior member of staff (and lost). She is the most awful type of person. I’m just hoping having a child might soften some of the edges

Nah, having kids doesn't soften people. It focuses their spite and turns them into the sort of ultra judgy, highly competitive nosey fucker that gives the school gate a bad name.

Use the time to find a new job, her stand in can give you a reference

She won't change

Someone i have the misfortune to work alongside sometimes is a total bitch - perhaps it's the same person lol 😆 she had her first and so far only child about 6 years ago, she's still a bitch, never changed. As per your boss she's had people off sick with stress, hoards of people leave where she turns it around and tells her bosses 'isn't it good that I've taught them so well that they've been able to get new jobs' when in actual fact it was her appalling management and severe bullying behaviours - even if I had no job I'd never work for or near her - toxic cow

Find a new role and move away from this creature

@Oyyoucow

Yes I do, 3 of them. And like most people, having a child fundamentally changed who I am. But I wasn’t a rabid cow in the first place so...

This isn’t a “my boss is so mean” post without merit. She’s reduced staff to tears. Been hauled to tribunal for discriminating against a disabled junior member of staff (and lost). She is the most awful type of person. I’m just hoping having a child might soften some of the edges

I don’t agree that having a child necessarily changes anyone, and I think it’s pretty sexist to assume it has some kind of ‘softening’ effect. I think I’m more no bullshit and focused on getting stuff done at work since I got back from maternity leave, because I’m so aware of things needing to be done within childcare time constraints.

I absolutely believe you when you say your boss is awful, but I don’t see why you would expect having a child to change her discriminatory and cruel work persona, given how extreme she is.

How has she escaped dismissal?

@JMAngel1, she gets results. End of

I guess you can hope that whilst she's off the workforce continues to get results, less sick leave due to bullying and less tribunals.

And they realise they don't need her.

Although it would be extremely difficult to get rid of her after maternity without further problems that they decide to dismiss her for and she sounds the type who will claim being a parent was the reason - not her behaviour.