Any suggestions on what I can do

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I’m currently on furlough as I work in retail I live alone but see my partner twice a week towards the end normally. I have bubbled up with him and his friend who he lives with. I would stay at his more but he’s working every day and it’s not fair on his housemate to have me there 24/7. When I’m alone I’m so bored I’ve painted some furniture gone on a distance walks completed a puzzle etc but I’m so alone and bored I’m trying my best to keep myself occupied but it’s so hard. I wake up eat breakfast shower change and then that’s it I have nothing else to do I know everyone else is in the same boat and I’m not alone it just feels it. Just tried to call a friend but she’s working and can’t speak. I also have endometriosis that’s so bad I was in a and e last month and then when I wasn’t I was laying in bed crying in pain looking at the ceiling for 5 days. My boyfriend did offer to come and see me but I told him not to worry as he had so much work.

Another ground hog day Done

What about some sort of Internet course.learn something new? volunteering. I have a friend who volunteers at a vaccination centre. would that be an idea?

I don’t drive and the nearest vacation centre is a while away I’ve considered a course but not sure what I could do or if they cost anything.

• Have you looked at other temp jobs? You can still work whilst being furlough from another

-Learn to drive -Buy those adult colouring books -Jig saw

• Try a new hobby or craft
• Do a weekly group yoga/pilates course online
• Coursera offer many free courses in various topics
• Learn a new language- duolingo is free
• cook something new or try a new fruit/vegetable/ingrediant every week
• start planting seeds ready for spring planting
• get a pet

How often does your BF stay at yours? Could he come for a meal if not to stay the night? Could you meet him on his lunch break?

Volunteering from home if travel is the issue, might take a while to get DBS etc if needed though.
Get involved with community projects
Look on some of the task rabbit roles and see if you can do that, or apply for some ad hoc work hours

What about volunteering for something like being a befriender, where you telephone people who are on their own for a chat.
Make sure you do your 10 000 steps per day.
Choose a new recipe to try every week.
Organise a Zoom chat for you and your work colleagues.
Learn to knit/crochet/embroider/cross stitch.
Jigsaw puzzle.
If you have FB, start playing one of the farm/kitchen/fantasy island type games.

Walk an elderly neighbours dog
Phone call befriending of elderly -through AgeUK??
Litter picking inn the local community
Learn to draw/paint/crochet/bake beautiful cakes/anything!

This is what I would be doing, I’d love to have some time to invest in me!!!

He works an hour away so I couldn’t get to his work with out a long train journey which isn’t safe or really allowed due to Covid. I bake and cook very complex meals a lot of the time I’m a really keen cook and have done a few cook classes too but they where costing me money which I don’t really have to spare. I’ve looked at some temp work but my illness had recently got very bad so I’ve had to put it on hold. Also not many jobs going where I live. I also live in a flat in a city centre but I do manage to get my fresh air every day. I guess at the end of the day even if I hundreds of hobbies or new tasks I would still miss the company of someone else. I’ve offered to get food or pick things up for anyone in my building but it’s a new build and only 3 of the flats are full out of about 26 so not many neighbors

I also don’t want to be negative and shut down everyone’s comments by boyfriend has said he’s coming to stay at mine tomorrow as he misses me so that’s something I’m planning on cooking something lovely so will spend the day doing that for him. Will challenge myself to cook something different

When you’re feeling low it can be hard to have motivation for new skills and hobbies. Lots of things cost money indirectly, too. What about making more of the things you already do - share your cooking skills on social media? You could write about your experience of endometriosis to share with other women: endometriosis-uk.org/share-your-story

It seems from your responses you just want to vent really which is fine. I am usually fairly optimistic and happy in my own company but I am fed up now even with my partner and children around and wf. Hopefully things will begin to open up soon . For ideas what about on line exercise classes, lots of free things. Lots of yoga and low impact if it is new to you. Also the open University has lots of free modules available, quick and easy(like an hour or so) and you can build your credits up. Or look at skilling up re IT or something else useful work wise.

Future learn is great for free short courses.

Don't waste this time!! You'll regret it sitting and moping around