What age do children not want to go on holiday with you?

[purpleme12]

What age did you child stop wanting to go on holiday with you?
Or stopped having as much fun, was moany?

@Volcanoexplorer

For all those whose adult children go with them who pays? My dc are only young at the moment, but I can’t imagine paying for them both when they’re in their 20s or 30s. I’ve been on family holidays with my parents and my in-laws at different times, but dh and I payed for ourselves.

Same here. I get the argument that if you're booking a villa you aren't paying per person as such, but you could book a smaller, cheaper place if it was just for two than if you were also accomodating multiple DC. Plus flights, hiring a bigger car, etc. It must be a significant difference.

What about food and activities on holiday? Do adult DC pay for those / pay just for themselves / get that paid for too?

My poor kids - there's no way I'm doing this for them!

@JeanSpinneysSmallPleasures I can't believe you remembered my post! We will most definitely enjoy taking DS to New York at some point although can't see it being this year to be honest. It's just lovely to know I have that to look forward to!

My kids are now 27 and 29 but still look forward to trips with us and also wider family. Could for a week or even longer. Pre lockdown included longhaul luxury or a big house in the UK. It’s really nice spending time together as adults, especially as they don’t live close by. Maybe that’s the difference - if we saw each other every day, or even once a week, they’d be less keen. We always pay as we earn much more than them, and it’s my pleasure to be able to continue to treat them to things they don’t do themselves or with their friends. I’m sure one day the tables will turn and we will be skint pensioners and they will treat us. I did the same with my dad and he often joined our family holidays. I hope we always like each other enough to want to spend time together.

We always pay as we earn much more than them, and it’s my pleasure to be able to continue to treat them to things they don’t do themselves or with their friends.

I think this is the key. People pay for lots of things when they go on holiday - why not pay for the pleasure of your children's company if you have the money?

15 was the last time I went away with my parents in the parent and child dynamic. Money was tight so it was irregular, there wasn't much moaning though, we were lucky to go anywhere. UK or occasionally France.

It was always fun though - one year we went on a tour of The North and stayed in travel lodges, explored Hadrian's Wall and gradually came back down. Ate a full English every day. We did Derbyshire in a tiny little car that could barely make it up the hills, four of us plus luggage in a metro. Dorset coast with clotted cream and apple pies. Lots of picnics, and car picnics.

When I was 15 we went to Portugal for my first hot holiday. My brother didn't come (uni) so I missed his company - not that I'd have admitted it at the time! I remember being in a bar with my parents and cringing so much 😂.

At 16 I went away with 1 friend on an archaeological dig and that was it, hooked. Self funded from then on with Saturday job money, usually camping or city breaks with friends or digging solo and had the best time. Not exotic, but I loved it.
We have been away with my parents as adults and it's lovely.

Wrt our DC, I suspect they will tag along for as long as we paid for them too. The thought of eldest DDs last family holiday being in 3 years is awful, there's still so much I want to do with them both!

Ours stopped coming on summer holidays when they were at university, but continued to come skiing with us.
When they had children of their own, they were pleased to be taken away in the summer.
I love going away with them all, they are all good company and they appreciate being given nice holidays.