Were they angry? Sad? Happy?
If they reacted negatively how did you deal with it?
My first DD is 4 and half my second is 3 months. She is a having a hard time i think and I dont know how to deal with it.
She doesnt hate her, she talks about how much she loves her and she constantly wants to be around her and she doesnt want her to be left out. But she is so over the top. She screams in her face, she like shakes sometimes when shes near her, she has pinched her and she just pushes the line every time. I ask her to calm down and not hold her so tight or 'tap' her tummy like I do, but hers is more of a hit. She sometimes looks at me and does something nice but just really hard.. I hope that makes sense. Shes never really hurt her, but DD2 backs away from her now when she comes near and it makes me sad. I obviously dont leave them alone unattended. I have to sit her down every day and have a talk with her about it and it's getting tiring. Mixture of lockdown and post natal hormones, I have lost my temper a few times and I'm disappointed in myself. I will say the same thing over and over and she doesnt listen. I think she does it for my attention. But how do I deal with it?
We were all in bed this morning and she asked to hold her, we were all there and i thought maybe its because I'm being negative, maybe she just needs some trust. (My baby is a very chunky healthy 3 month old) so I let her hold her. I moved my hand away for a second and she moved her arm and let her head drop, we were on the bed so she just fell onto a pillow. Obviously all was fine but DD2 got a shock and cried. DD1 ran off crying too. I asked her to come and talk to me, she hates talking about her feelings, I ask her most days if she has any big feelings she wants to talk about and she always says no, I'm happy. I asked her and she said, I have a remote control in my head that told me to drop her. I feel like this is just her way of getting out of it trying to shift the blame. But as im writing this she has been doing all the things we ask her not to do with the baby. And OH has been asking her calmly to stop and she just does it again.
Sorry for the long post. I just want to do the right thing. She is a very lovely girl, but she gets overwhelmed very easily and really struggles with direction. Her teacher and nursery were never worried about her or anything so I'm not too worried behavioral wise. She has a few quirks but I think shes just a normal 4 year old. Her teacher has described her as mischievous Haha but so much fun and very imaginative.
Any advice?