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Boyfriend/Partner/Husband Appreciation thread

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tocketytickety · 13/02/2021 06:31

I know some are awful (I have an ExH) but please tell me we all don't want to murder the person we're sharing our lives with.

Is there someone who's BF/DP/DH isn't an arsehole? Please come and share.

Any redeeming quality? Share it here.

What makes him great? Share it here.

Is he of any use? Please share.

Why in the world did you get together/couple up/get married (It has to be something good initially at least, if you can't find anything else)? Please share it here.

Is he the best person you've ever known? Yes, come on in.

Hoping to get a response from 2 people, at least.Smile

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Ohalrightthen · 13/02/2021 06:33

He's absolutely fucking fabulous. I can currently hear him singing a song about nappies to our toddler, who he's taken the week off work to take care of, because nursery is shut. He works himself to the bone for our family and i am so proud of him.

TheRuleofStix · 13/02/2021 06:35

My dh is the best - an amazing husband, father, son and friend. We’ve been together for over 30 years and hoping for another 60 at least Grin.

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tocketytickety · 13/02/2021 06:36

That was supposed to say whose, not who's.

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tocketytickety · 13/02/2021 06:39

I've got 2! Hoping for 2 more...

@Ohalrightthen Aww the nappies' song.Bear

@TheRuleofStix Here's to the next 60 yearsBrewWine

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MajorMujer · 13/02/2021 06:40

Ok, here goes.

Was a good friend, from a similar background but significantly older.
We just talked, constantly, had so much in common ( we worked together at the time)
He is funny, loving, thoughtful, practical and can adult, i.e. is a proper partner in life.
We are still, 30 years on, excited to share our day with each other.
He brings me a cup of tea every morning , we share the same values and goals.
We can disagree without it being the end of the world ( unlike my parents ).
All decisions are joint.
We have freedom for hobbies etc, but fairly.
We still fancy each other.

TheRuleofStix · 13/02/2021 06:41

@tocketytickety thank you GrinFlowers

Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep · 13/02/2021 06:48

I'm lying in bed being used as a pillow by mine. It's only fair as, after a very tough week, I used him as a snot rag last night.
He bought us takeaway, rubbed my legs and let me vent about everything. He's the most gentle, caring man without being in any way a doormat.

We met on Bumble and spent 100 hours talking on the phone in the week before we met in person. The chemistry backed up the connection when we met and almost immediately it felt like we'd been together forever. He has been endlessly supportive as I've struggled with lockdown and everything that goes with it.

We don't live together, I have two young children, b ut he's there for me. I had a very frightening allergic reaction on Monday and he turned up on my doorstep to take care of me even though it caused him a major inconvenience.

After my marriage broke down i felt very bruised and disillusioned. DP has rekindled my faith in men and relationships after ExH. He's sane, kind, responsible, and an excellent cook. He makes me laugh. He lets me cry when I need to. He makes me feel loved and I drink it up.

It helps that I find him very sexy, too. Grin but not giving any more details of that side of things!

Elwynne · 13/02/2021 07:07

My husband is wonderful! He is gentle and kind and courageous in ways im too scared to be. He gives great hugs and always listens and always has time for me and the children. I am very lucky!

Peanutbutterblood · 13/02/2021 07:19

My dh is awesome. Hes got his faults but I adore him. In wednesday the washing machine broke, Dh has been so busy working I assumed it would have to wait until the weekend and even then I wasnt sure he could fix it but that same night he stayed up and sorted out. That was his good deed this week. He got a BJ for his troubles

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tocketytickety · 13/02/2021 07:20

Loving it all.

@MajorMujer Sounds like DH and me Smile
@Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep Aww... I can feel the 'floodgates' opening!

DH has been up with me for 3 hours or so. He made an 'early morning snack for the sleepless' and we've been talking about 'everything and nothing' (as usual) since. I've just told him I made this post and he's currently smiling at me and shaking his head in a "You're just the soppiest" manner. DC would say I'm "Lovey-dovey".😃

I honestly can't put into words just how wonderful he is as a human being, a husband, a true partner and a dad (technically a stepdad but you'll never know this if no one told you). We say we're each other's twin or male/female version of each other but he's the better part of me, really.

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tocketytickety · 13/02/2021 07:28

😅 at 'BJ for his troubles'. Well-deserved then.

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JosieB68 · 13/02/2021 07:39

My partner is the most amazing man. Can’t wait to become his wife one day and share our lives together.
I can tell he will make the most amazing father too.
He’s kind, generous, gentle and funny, I could go on. Of course he can be annoying, I’m sure I annoy him too but it really is an amazing feeling to think about the rest of my life with my best friend.

letsmakethishappen · 13/02/2021 07:46

Where did u meet these nice men? Is there a website? I’ve only been with idiots my whole dating life

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tocketytickety · 13/02/2021 07:47

That was to @Peanutbutterblood

@Elwynne People underestimate great hugs. They're therapeutic to me.

@JosieB68 Here's to the future BrewWine

8 is great! Better than I hoped. Still come on people, who's next? Grin

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NoGoodPunsLeft · 13/02/2021 07:51

It kind of occurs to me every day or so how much DH shares the load with housework/DD etc, I've read so many threads about partners being the opposite that it makes me appreciate mine even more.

shitsandgig · 13/02/2021 07:55

My DP restored my faith in men. My ExP was an abusive scumbag and I though all men would treat me this way.

My Dp treats me so well, he stepped up and taken on my DC as his own. Financially supported a long court battle with my ex. (It's run into the thousands)

Cuddles me to sleep every night

I trust and love him wholeheartedly.

Thanks for this thread OP. MN is usually full of really shit partners!

cricketmum84 · 13/02/2021 07:56

Yep he's amazing. I'm having some very serious health issues currently so he is literally doing everything as I'm unable to even get to the loo myself. He cooks, cleans, looks after the DC, he helps me wash and dress, helps me stand, picked up my wheelchair and takes me out for little walks around so I can get some Fresh air.

He makes me laugh and smile and holds me if I need a self pity cry. Couldn't live without him.

RosesforMama · 13/02/2021 08:01

Been with my DH 32 years. Every morning he brings me a cup of tea (and the dog) and tells me that he loves me. He does 95 percent of the laundry (washing,carrying, sorting and delivering) and works long hours for his pay.

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tocketytickety · 13/02/2021 08:02

@letsmakethishappen Mine took nearly 9 years of being completely alone with dc (No contact with ExH). I wasn't even trying to date anymore. Can't go into details about how we met as it's a bit unusual Smile but there are beautiful (inside and out) men out there and I really hope you meet one some day Flowers

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flappityflippers1 · 13/02/2021 08:04

Yes my DH is absolutely incredible ❤️

  • steps up and fully co parents and co housework
  • he’s incredible with our DS
  • fully supportive and understanding of my MH struggles
  • he’s the one to say to me “you’re growing an entire human, rest” when I feel bad about yet another nap (32 wk preg)
  • he’s supported me wholeheartedly while my dad has been battling a terminal cancer diagnoses
  • he’s so loving, kind, gives the best hugs and makes a cracking brew

I adore him ❤️

Rockbird · 13/02/2021 08:08

Mine came into the room half an hour ago with a cup of tea. He pats me gently on the leg to let me know it's there so I can choose to wake up and drink it or sleep and ignore it. He knows I love my tea and does this every morning. I can hear him now clearing up the kitchen.

He's funny, caring, super kind, a great father, and he puts up with my total weirdness. I couldn't ask for a better husband. He has crap taste in music though so it's not all hearts and roses...

Blankiefan · 13/02/2021 08:19

I've got one of the good ones too. He doesn't think he deserves a medal for being an equal partner. He's generous with his time, resources and spirit. He makes me laugh every day . He makes me feel appreciated every day. We make a great team.

ChaBishkoot · 13/02/2021 08:26

I met DH at University. He’s American. He was/is painfully shy and awkward, quite serious and exceptionally brilliant. I was a little awestruck. He tells me he was a little bit scared of me. We both did PhDs on the East Coast and he’s a physician and we have now been in the US together for close to 20 years.

He’s the kindest and funniest man I know. He’s very much an equal partner and an equal parent. He picks up the slack when he needs to and brushes away any gratitude. For a shy person he wears his feelings for me quite openly- he’s fiercely proud of my achievements, and that of our kids. His masculinity is never insecure, never toxic, and fully feminist- both in his every day life and his acceptance of a feminine equal in words and deeds.

Also does he irritate me by having a bee in his bonnet about random shit?? Also yes!

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tocketytickety · 13/02/2021 09:45

Happy to read these. It can be a little 'doom and gloom' here so thank you all for sharing these positive ones 💛

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ChaBishkoot · 13/02/2021 11:07

Random bee in the bonnet shit= custard has raw eggs. Not REALLY. The eggs are cooked slowly. The man is a scientist. Nothing I have ever shown him has convinced him otherwise. I have even said: you can say you don’t like custard.
Him: I like custard. (Dear reader he doesn’t). I don’t like the raw eggs.
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