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I miss my son so much.

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StillMedusa · 13/02/2021 01:21

Just coming up to a year since he went to Australia to be with his lovely financee ( who lived with us for 2 years..I miss her too!)
I knew I'd miss him, but knew he was only 24 hours on a plane away, and he'd be back for his sister's wedding, and then to meet the baby that she and her lovely husband are cooking...
Then Covid. And he and J couldn't come back. And we can't go to them. And the baby is due soon.
I miss his music (he's a singer songwriter) I miss his guitar playing. I miss his voice and his smell and his 'love you Mum' when he went to bed.
It sucks for us all, I know. But tonight I just want a hug from my lovely son and he's 10000 miles away...

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BlueistheNewme · 13/02/2021 01:34

It’s really rubbish to have not been able to see him. FaceTime isn’t the same. Can you send him a handwritten letter and some things he likes from home. Maybe that will help you feel closer to him. Have a zoom chat and sing together x

JustMoved123 · 13/02/2021 02:59

Oh OP, I’m totally with you, I’m in the opposite position, we moved to Australia for work in 2019 with the proviso that we would travel back at least once a year and the children would visit here. Obviously now we’ve not seen them for a whole year and no sign of things changing soon. I feel trapped and miss them both so much, there is no way we would have made this decision if we’d had a Crystal ball! There is no substitute for the smell and feel of your children - even when they are all grown up! Hang on in there.

Itscoldouthere · 13/02/2021 03:25

I’m with you both, we are from the UK but currently we are in Canada, came here for my husbands work, in August last year, our sons are at university in UK. They can’t come to visit us at all in Canada and now we have quarantine hotels here in Canada and the UK making everything so difficult and expensive.
The vaccine role out is going very slowly here in Canada so we probably won’t get a jab till September, if we were in the UK would would get it sooner.
It’s just all a bit depressing, we sold our house before coming here so our boys now have to consider their uni houses as home, the youngest one is 20 and things aren’t going well at uni, I feel like he’s just so far away and we can’t support him properly. If only we’d had a crystal ball last year!

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Isadora2007 · 13/02/2021 03:29

That’s really sad for you all. I guess at least knowing your child is happy is a huge thing as some mothers have their children under their roof but know they’re deeply sad and unhappy or unwell.
I’m lucky my son isn’t too far so we’ve seen him when lockdowns have lessened and at Xmas etc but his lovely gf is from ROI and couldn’t go home at Xmas and was really sad. She came here but I know it hurt her and her family to not be together then. It sucks.

Ploughingthrough · 13/02/2021 05:53

I am the child in a similar situation desperately missing my mum from abroad. We moved overseas 20 month ago excited for an adventure, and with the absolute certainty that we would travel back for a long visit once a year, and my mum and MIL would come out as often as they liked. It's now been over a year since I've seen my mum and 20 month since MIL, and a lot has happened in that time. We would never have moved if we had even an inkling of something like this.
We're moving back to the UK 4 months today - I can't wait any longer to see my friends and family. Sending you sympathy OP.

Londonnight · 13/02/2021 06:29

It's really tough. My son is in Canada and I haven't seen him or his family now for over two years. My grand daughter is a year old next week and I still haven't seen her in person.
With quarantine in both countries I have no idea when we will be able to visit each other.

I look forward to our Skype calls every week, at least that keeps us in touch.

ReefTeeth · 13/02/2021 06:37

@Itscoldouthere

I’m with you both, we are from the UK but currently we are in Canada, came here for my husbands work, in August last year, our sons are at university in UK. They can’t come to visit us at all in Canada and now we have quarantine hotels here in Canada and the UK making everything so difficult and expensive. The vaccine role out is going very slowly here in Canada so we probably won’t get a jab till September, if we were in the UK would would get it sooner. It’s just all a bit depressing, we sold our house before coming here so our boys now have to consider their uni houses as home, the youngest one is 20 and things aren’t going well at uni, I feel like he’s just so far away and we can’t support him properly. If only we’d had a crystal ball last year!

Do you mean August 2019? Because I'm pretty sure we all knew what a shit storm this was in August 2020 and no way would I have relocated at that time.

Dh is now the one far from his family after we moved to my home in 2018 and I know it's tough. I'm personally thankful we left the UK but hate my dh missing his family and us not being able to visit.

I hope your ds is ok. My DM was able to support me long distance when dd1 was born and just speaking with her everyday helped so much.

CormoranStrike · 13/02/2021 07:46

Oh I would desperately miss my kids if this were me. My heart goes out to you all. To us all actually.
My mum and siblings are mainly in the UK and I haven’t seen them, even socially distanced, in months.
I haven’t touched any of them for a year.
It’s so boring and shit.

Itscoldouthere · 13/02/2021 14:00

@ReefTeeth yes in an ideal world nobody would choose to move in a pandemic but for us it was too difficult to back out.
We started the process in 2019 but I only returned to Canada Aug 2020. So much had already been arranged we couldn’t just pull out, we’d sold our house, taken on an apartment in Canada and my DH job is here, he can’t just go back to London, he’s running the office here in Canada so it would take a lot to change everything and his old job in London has been filled by somebody else.
We realised the boys wouldn’t be able to come last year, but hoped it would get better this year, I know we were worried about a second wave, but things were very different in the UK & Canada in August, we had less restrictions, we could eat out, go to the pub etc I don’t think we all knew how restrictive things would get again.
Now I think Canada will not open up the borders at all this year, so I don’t think anyone will be able to visit us.
I will come back to the UK at some point this year, it will just cost a lot of money and I will have to do 4 weeks quarantine but I’m hoping that it will be worth it if some restrictions have been lifted and I can see our boys.
Long term I think it means we will not stay in Canada as long as we thought we would, it’s sad as I really like it here but being in a bubble of just me, DH and the dog isn’t any good in the long run.
We had obviously hoped and planned for it to be a completely different experience, a great situation for us to enjoy living somewhere different and for our boys, friend and family to be able to come and stay, it was planned to be an experience for 3/4 years before we retired.
I’m not sure how long we will stay here now but the way things are going it’s likely we will try to be back in the UK in 2022.

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