Most disappointing Valentine's (the person or the day)

[Nunoftheother]

To (hopefully) cheer up anyone who's currently single, unable to be with their SO on Sunday, in an unhappy relationship, or who just thinks the whole Valentine's Day thing is a load of consumerist bollocks.

I'm sure there will be plenty far worse / more amusing than mine, but here goes:

1. I was a new graduate and still hadn't found a job, so money was very tight. He was a fairly well-paid 30-year-old professional with his own flat. I'd bought him a lovely tie from John Lewis and an amusing card (newish relationship, so not too lovey-dovey). He bought me nothing and dumped me six days later.*

2. Again, fairly new relationship so just sent a card. Eventually, some time in the evening, he got round to sending a text. It literally said, "Happy Valentine's Day." That was it. Not even a kiss. I saw him one more time before he ghosted me.

*I asked for the tie back and got a refund.

Poor you!

When I was about 15, I was hanging out with my friends on Valentines day and one of them told me that someone was going to give me a card later and ask me out. The lad was a few years older than me and we had spoken as friends a few times. I didn't want to go out with him, nor upset him by saying no. So later when he gave me the card I just said 'thank you' and took it home with me He didn't ask me out that night.

@GetTheStartyParted - Yeah, relationships aren't my forte. I had a couple of really nice VDs with one guy when I was in my 20s, but the others (the very few in my life when I haven't actually been single) have been eminently forgettable.

Long time ago.

He suggested we went to a French restaurant. I think it was in Coventry or Leicester. He ate snails in front of me, with those nutscracker things and garlic butter dripping on his massive napkin tucked in like a bib.

That was nice

I got pissed.

@Nunoftheother I'm married but we don't celebrate Valentines - its not really a thing is it unless you want chocolate

@Nunoftheother yikes, I saw couple of nice VDs and blinked rapidly initially!

[quote Frownette]@Nunoftheother yikes, I saw couple of nice VDs and blinked rapidly initially![/quote]

Heavily pregnant at the time, due March 9th which was Mother's Day.

Went into labour on Valentines Day and after a long miserable night without my planned steak, had DS by C section the following afternoon.

My partner of 12 years finished our relationship a couple of days before, and I moved out on Valentine's Day. So, that was romantic.

On the Valentine’s Day we were 14, all wanting to have a boyfriend, my friends Kate and Nicola and I decided we’d go round to the house of some boy called Edward who Nicola vaguely knew through her church I think, and who Kate and I had never met at all. We knocked on the door and when his mum answered, we asked for Edward. Edward came to the door and we told him he had to pick one of us to be his girlfriend, right then and there. Poor Edward didn’t know what to do with himself (though in later years, he no doubt looked back on this one and only time ever that he had three girls at once literally on his doorstep all desperate to go out with him and kicked himself for his shyness!) but after a bit of dithering he said he supposed he’d like Kate to be his girlfriend. I remember feeling so upset that he hadn’t picked me, and thinking that I’d never have a boyfriend and that this was just my first of many Valentine’s Days forever that I was going be alone 😂 We all walked in to town together and Edward and Kate held hands all the way. Devastated was not the word.

That’s all I’ve got. It was almost two decades ago and I still remember it as clearly as anything!

I would love to have someone who gave a shit and bought me a card for Valentine's day. I was with my ex for 30 years, and apart from the first year, I never got a card, or even any acknowledgement. And I was stupid enough to think buying him something would one day prompt him to reciprocate.

He used to say it was "too commercial", but that was his go-to excuse when he just couldn't be bothered. I had years when I never got a birthday present, either, but he'd get massively huffy if his birthday gift wasn't sufficiently good enough.

Anyway, I left, he's now dead, and when I start dating again, my standards will be very much better.

This year is the WORST I can’t see my partner because my household has covid.
It’s the anniversary of some bad things.
And my relatives ruined my surprise for my partner.

I had a 3 month old, i was at home all week alone, I was shattered. I asked DH to get up in the morning with DD and bring me up a cup of coffee. I said that's all I want for my valentines day. He stayed asleep, baby wailed beside me, I got up, he slept in til 9, I made my own coffee, then gave me a box for jewellery (I dont wear jewellery). I cried a lot that day. My mother, who loves him, ate the head off him.

Now I have a 3 month old again and this time I am having a 3 course meal made for me tomorrow, all my favourite food, and wine. He has learned.

Last Valentine's Day I moved house after leaving my stbxh. I was emotionally and physically exhausted after several car loads and no help whatsoever (other than hiring a man with a van for an hour to move the big furniture)

I got absolutely plastered on my own and cried myself to sleep.

Looking back now, it was actually one of my best Valentine's Day to date

The year I was 18 and worked at the same place on Jermyn St (central London, old money, same street as Fortnum and mason) as my bf and I recieved a truly beautiful single red rose from a secret admirer sent to my workplace. It said ‘to the girl with the beautiful smile’, I was so touched and felt so special to have this beautiful rose that cost a fortune. He made me throw it in the bin and made a massive fuss about how it was disrespectful to him to accept it and for the person to have sent it. It could have come from anyone, even a customer who I’d done a good job for that day, but he assumed it came from someone else we worked with and made a massive fuss. To this day, I wish I’d kept it.

62, never had a Valentines thing. Ah well!

At uni so about 20, had been on off with a guy for a while but he wanted to make it official...booked a fancy restaurant, bought a suit (!), picked me up in a taxi...lovely meal, very sincere, great night then walking me home he dumps me! Gutted at the time but lucky escape in hindsight

8 months pregnant. Got hit by a car driven by someone off their face on drugs and spent a week in hospital getting to 37w before being induced with DS (currently snuggled on my lap, completely fine 11 years later).

Weird one when I was younger...a guy from the year above, I was about 15, came into my maths class to present me with a bouquet of roses. Embarrassing but nice, until I opened the card...homemade with a wedding scene cut out of a magazine, my face stuck on the bride and a ? over the groom! Also a graveyard and an anagram of his name even though he gave it to me in person. I did not go out with him

We'd gone out for a meal. My now husband had drank a strong coffee in the afternoon which had given him a migraine.

He couldn't read the menu as he had double vision and was sat at the table heaving. We had to go home. I remember ringing my mom for a chat while he was asleep in bed.

That was years ago, pre kids. We don't really bother with valentines day now.

I got engaged 50 years ago on Valentine’s Day. I loved my ring but sadly we were burgled 4 yrs ago and it was taken.

@deste

I got engaged 50 years ago on Valentine’s Day. I loved my ring but sadly we were burgled 4 yrs ago and it was taken.

That's very sad. Hope you enjoy the 50th aniversary of your engagement!

Thankyou.

In sixth form I was in a small group activity. One of the members was a friend of a friend and I liked him. Wouldn't say or do anything about it as I thought he wouldn't be interested and I had a big fear or rejection. My friend made noises like he might be and come valentines day when the post came and a handwritten envelope for me my heart leapt. Turns out it was so randomer asking for my autograph (I had a small role in a tv series some years beforehand and he was a collector, the studio forwarded his request). Few weeks later someone else joined the group and they started dating. Humph.

Then when I started uni I finally got a boyfriend (I was a very late starter, no one fancied me), thought huzzah and here comes valentines!! Bought a small card and small bear. About a week beforehand got dumped. That was hard, had to see him nearly every day for the rest of my course after that

Yeah when I was younger I built it up and up because I had non existent love life, and it's not all that. DH and I don't do cards, or gifts and it genuinely doesn't bother me. We do nice things for each other day to day.