What to send to grieving friend?

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My very good friend had lost a loved one. Any ideas on what I can send to her?

Thank you.

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My friend has just lost her mum we've got her a plant instead of flowers some brownies and a Neom spa sleep set thing xxxx

Thank you jollybobs89. Which plant, from an online shop, do you recommend I should get?

I would send her some food .. maybe some meals from COOK or something .. I think flowers are sad because then they die a week later 😬!!

Honestly, some nice words would probably mean the most and be remembered the best.

A card with a handwritten, personal message - if you have a lovely memory of the loved one include that.

When my dad died flowers became a huge strain for my mum. Now she hates having flowers in the house because they remind her of death.

Vouchers for meals so that she doesn't have to cook would be good - especially if she has children who will need feeding no matter how awful she is feeling herself. When a friend of mine lost her mum I sent her a soft woolly scarf and said that it was in place of the hug I wanted to give her. She sprayed it with her mum's perfume and kept it with her when she went back to work. She found really comforting.

A book called tear soup.

Some flowers with a handmade case for her to keep

I agree with the above poster, I would avoid flowers. I really felt overwhelmed by the amount of flowers I received after a loss and I now absolutely hate to get flowers. I personally would stick with a nice card and some words of support

No flowers. When my father died my closest friends sent wine (lots of it!), vouchers for COOK meals, books that weren’t centred around a father relationship.

But honestly the best thing was checking in every day without the need for a reply - “just making sure you’re ok, here if you need anything” etc and letting my cry whenever I needed to.

Maybe a donation to a charity?

Pasta Evangelists or similar.

Easy but way better than ready meals food.

Thank you everyone.

I got her a plant and a weeks full meal box.

When my dad died, home cooked meals/pizzas etc were a godsend. Feeding my family was one less thing to have to think about.

Someone bought me a rooted rose bush which I hugely appreciate.
(Wrong time of year just now probably though)

I loved getting flowers and cards, I found it comforting and uplifting. I wouldn't have wanted meals or food vouchers.