I told a colleague his hair was strokeable...

[ScottishStottie]

And now feel mortified!!

Didnt mean anything by it, we were chatting on facebook (so very public!) About lockdown haircuts, he mentioned he was wary about his wife cutting his hair (yes he has a wife, I have my dp!) And i replied saying that I understood his worry, and that his hair is very strokeable.

In my defence, ive had a few drinks, he has nice hair (like fluffy guy hair?) And it seemed a reasonable reply to his worry about an amateur cut... But his wife is going to think im coming onto him isnt she...

Totally not the case, ive never met his wife but he has met my dp, we are good friends, but work friends only sort of thing. I trained him and recommended his ability to higher up and hes done well from it so we've kept in touch quite a bit.

Is it an awful thing to have said or am i overthinking it...? Hes seen it and responded so cant delete it now.

Oh god, you need a new job, new house, new friends!

Seriously, bit odd but probably fine. I have to stop myself from stroking a work friend's beard which would be so much worse.

What the fuck! I'd think that was seriously weird. Sorry OP!

What did he reply?

His response to it was normal jokey sort of response which is why i didnt really process at the time, so dont think he's been weirded out by it, but its just dawning on me that it might look strange to others and its public so others can see it... Although i suppose better its public than his wife finding a private message from me saying it?? Clutching at straws here.. 😂

could always run off into the sunset with him, if he's a bit of a looker that is

But i dont want to run into the sunset with him!!

Im very happily involved with my dp, amd im sure hes happily married to his wife!

He just has strokeable hair, thats all!! But realised too late that its not appropriate to publicly tell a work friend of the opposite sex that!!

If it’s public, I think it’s clear you meant nothing from it - or that you’re just very brazen!

I did ruffle a colleague’s fluffy guy hair (I definitely know what you mean!) while drunk, but our spouses are friends as well and we are all aware that there’s nothing going on. I think it’s hard to know if you’re overthinking without knowing your relationship with him.

it is not an appropriate thing to say. but you know that.
unless someone else mentions it, just draw a line, ignore.
but let it be a lesson to you.
do not communicate with esp work people when you are not in full control of yourself. and be careful with alcohol anyway.
that is unprofessional.
but these are strange times, so some latitude for a lapse in judgement.
if he/his wife mentions it, you must apologise immediately and briefly. least said, soonest mended. good luck.

I assume and fervently hope that this is a troll. No actual person in a professional role would think this was remotely ok.

Are you sure you can't delete it?

Just checked mine, even if someone's responded I have the option to delete?

If not, brazen it out, don't obsess - just don't repeat

Delete it.

Ha, ha. OP. Sympathy. That's the kind of thing I say and mean nothing at all by it - it's innocent but just out it comes! My mouth charges off in the opposite direction from my brain.

I'd absolutely ignore it. If it's mentioned, mock yourself about it making it very clear that it's the sort of thing you say, the kind of person you are rather than specific to him and his covetable locks.

@5zeds

Delete it.

Definitely delete it and stop talking to colleagues that way.

In my defence, ive had a few drinks

Of course of course, it's understandable. The drink found you, forced itself down your throat one glass at a time and made you start saying creepy stuff. We've all been there.

Of course of course, it's understandable. The drink found you, forced itself down your throat one glass at a time and made you start saying creepy stuff. We've all been there.

I think this might be might favourite post ever.

Not appropriate and creepy, as he has seen the message I think you need to apologise.

Yes yes, I agree, nothing to see here except if a man said "your hair is strokeable" and used "I was drunk" as a perfectly justifiable excuse. We must make sure he pays for such stupendous creepiness.

But our 'sister' here? no she did alright. She's hilarious and the colleague should be flattered actually.

@RoxanneMonke

She said his hair is strokeable, not his penis. A bit much maybe but really not overly inappropriate

😂😂😂

Dh just said if anything is mentioned again, ask if you can have the clippings to recreate his hair to stroke.... seriously think my dh is weird right now!!!!

Tbh I don't think you've got anything to worry about, some people do have strokable hair.

Do you have pets? Does he? It’s a very weird thing to say (not even a word?) but you could have played it off by saying “your hair is strokeable” like Bella the frenchie and giving her a run for her money or whatever

Oh ffs. Just delete it. We've all done worse, no matter what they ^^ say.

@RoxanneMonke

"She said his hair is strokable,not his penis etc".😂😂😂

@ScottishStottie
I like your quiky funny post,thanks for Cheering me up in these weird times.😁

@ScottishStottie

We have all said or done at one time or another, something quiky . !

Nobody is perfect .!

Our quiky foibles is what makes us human and unique interesting .!😂😂😂