Private dance lessons for round shouldered clumsy teen

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When covid eases.. Is there such a thing?. What would dance teachers charge?.
Maybe 10 lessons in general dance to get deportment, smooth moving... Less awkward?.
Then perhaps join other classes....

Something needed to help her feel comfortable in her space.. Own her space or maybe drama lessons?

Most teachers will offer private lessons. Do you know what style of dance you have in mind? If you want something specifically relating to good posture then something like ballroom will help, though may not be “cool” enough for a teen!

I was - and still am in a way - clumsy.

It doesn't need a dance teacher, just a sympathetic person to help get over certain things.

Crossfit...

As an alternative (and don’t get me wrong, I love dance!) you could look at something like martial arts? It will teach control and balance, as well as discipline and respect.

My DD is 6 and has been doing a Korean MA called Kuk Sool Won since September and loves it.

Does your daughter even want dance lessons??

Round shouldered/awkward/clumsy is a really horrible way to view your child. Does she have any issues with herself or is it just you projecting these things? This post is really quite horrible.

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Does your daughter even want dance lessons??

Round shouldered/awkward/clumsy is a really horrible way to view your child. Does she have any issues with herself or is it just you projecting these things? This post is really quite horrible.

I was also wondering if the teen actually wants dance lessons.

Pilates.

Please get the the round shoulders checked. Nobody ever bothered to question it for me and I have scoliosis and everything has set in the wrong place. It's mainly cosmetic but it has badly dented my self esteem over the years. I saw a consultant in my 20s who didn't really care about the slight s shaped spine. The thing that has made a huge difference is seeing a chiropractor who realigns me and I am straighter than I have ever been. I always wonder how I would look now had someone looked into it all sooner. I was also very clumsy and it is caused by hypermobility, which links in with the scoliosis.

Have they asked for lessons? Sssms pretty specific

Sorry, my daughter is extremely beautiful! She's a wonderful girl with so much going for her but days spent stooped on phones have played havoc with her deportment.

She's also not comfortable in her space.
I'd like to help her.

Dance and ballet helps but she didn't like ballet, I was thinking about dance but she's not confident because by this age most young teens have already been dancing for years.

Martial arts is actually an excellent idea and perhaps more up her street!

Nealry, really good point thanks, can one give oneself this condition or are you born with it? Silly question but who would check it? A doctor?

Is hyper mobility linked to double joints?

Yes double joints. You can go to the GP but for me the right chiropractor turned out to be the key. I had it from birth so they thought I might have hip dysplasia but was just double jointed, and I was late walking as my core was so poor. My oldest is the same so goes to the chiro. He gets rounded shoulders even though he is in primary school but keeps being realigned which has made a difference and it is just about maintaining it now and esp during teenage years.

I would have loved private dance lessons as I am useless at dancing as I can't coordinate and am so self conscious I just don't dance in front of other people.

I am happy to give you other info about health but DM me as I don't really want to put it all on here.

Obviously there are plenty of other options, but I’d highly recommend Kuk Sool Won which is a mixed discipline martial art (plenty of You Tube videos if you search for them). Link to official schools, there might be one near you: www.kuksoolwon.com/site/schools/united-kingdom

Why not do Pilates instead? Maybe together? My posture is massively improved by regular Pilates. The good classes, not the junk offered by Les Mills.

I couldn't dance as a teenager or now - I hate it, I hate being watched, I feel judged, I feel fat and ungainly. I love Pilates because it helps me and I don't feel uncomfortable doing it.

Ah yes, and I'm hypermobile.

Looking at phones doesn't help, but it is more that it exacerbates than causes it if you look at her peers who are doing the same. If you are hypermobile the body doesn't seem to have the same muscle tone and memory for where everything should be. I had people think they had the right to comment on it as though it was a choice when I would have given anything not to look like that. The right exercises can make a huge difference, but they need to continue being done as if I stop it gets worse again.

Thank you nearly.

I only ask about double joints as I did pilates once and the teacher mentioned in passing... Blah blah with your hypermobilty but I didn't know what she meant, no one before ever said I was... Dad has a few bendy joints as well.

All this working from home, mobiles etc isn't helping with her posture and she seems awkward...
I'd like to her help her own her space and be relaxed...
I'm nervous about a chiropractor due to cost and professional stuff.. Dh said they don't have proper medical quals?
. I guess doc would be first step..

Does she actually want to dance though?

You could suggest horse riding to her. Plenty of emphasis on posture in that.

I'd ask her what she wants to do. If my mum had suggested private dance classes to me I would have run a mile.

Private dance will be £££ on par with a chiro. I personally wouldn't go down that route. Dd is hyper mobile and having physio to help strengthen all the muscles. I'd put them money to that.

Please get the the round shoulders checked. Nobody ever bothered to question it for me and I have scoliosis and everything has set in the wrong place.

As someone with scoliosis, this was my first thought too! Unfortunately GPs can be a bit useless at spotting it.

The one I see is qualified. Mine isn't horrendously expensive and I now go once a month. I was incredibly sceptical before I went but decided it was worth a try as another friend with slight scoliosis found it helped her. Mine is more pronounced than hers I get realigned and a massage to unknot all the muscles which pull everything the wrong way. It has significantly reduced my pain, which I didn't realise I had as it was part of normal life, but when it reduced it made me realise it was there. GP may be able to refer to a physio but I found when I was discharged it was hard to maintain things without any support. Pilates is very good for building core which is good.

Mine did a musical theatre group at that age ( Stagecoach). Very inclusive, street cred enough, good teaching and grouped by age so no fear of being with a bunch of eight year old prima divas.

See if you can get her interested in yoga to help her relax and get to know her body.
Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube is fantastic

What do you mean by "own her space" and does she want that?

Comfortable in her skin...
She is, loves nice clothes but isn't vain, no make up, hair or nails yet.
She seems awkward... I'd like to help her tune into her body more, learn how to control it which is what dance does, drama and of course definitely yoga and pilates...

It's hard to describe but she sort of moves around... So it's very hard to walk down the street calmly chatting..