Moving to a new city alone in your early 40s...

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Has anyone done this? I’m thinking about it but conscious that so many of my contemporaries are married with children - I’m not and I wonder how difficult it will be to make new friends/whether I’ll be judged in the new work place.

I know friends don’t have to be the same age as you - and love meeting all sorts of people, but just having a bit of a wobble...

Would be very interested to hear anyone’s experience who’s done this/knows someone who’s done it. I’m talking a big UK city eg Newcastle, Bristol, Birmingham, Manchester.

Ooh following. Firstly I think if its a big City you will always find single people. Secondly I think if you target your hobbies.

I work in a city am 40 odd and single and most people in my work place have families or are in relationships. We have some social activities through work but I would say the days of me developing and upkeeping lasting friendships through work are dwindling, mainly as my job is demanding, though I tend to catch up with ex colleagues once I have left more. You could just give it a go and move jobs.

I don't think you'd be judged in a new workplace? I'm thinking of doing a similar move in a couple of years, when I will be mid-50s.

I'm planning to make friends through work, meetup, the bumble friend app, hobbies...I'm not the most outgoing person but it almost gives you a judgment-free period of 'I'm new in town and don't know anyone' to just get out there. I've gone to meet-ups in London where I feel like I've been given a bit of a side-eye because I have been in London for many years yet don't know many people now. You haemorrhage friends in London over the years, I don't think people realise it!

I debate this often and with some more savings might take the plunge. I'm late 30's and single, my city is ace but I grew up here. Feels like everyone knows everyone especial my in my age group. I feel like my interests no longer align with my friends and I question whether I even like my friends now. I feel I have outgrown them and want to experience a new city, new people etc etc.

But also worry about making friends when many people my age have partners/children, and my partying days are over. Plus I'm an introvert. Sigh.

Hello. Out of interest.did you make the move ?