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Single mothers and other women to avoid

27 replies

perrywinkle · 11/02/2021 13:00

So I came across this video on YouTube today. Equally shocked at the majority of the comments!

I match the description of every type of women he's advised men to avoid - divorced, older than my DH and two kids from a previous marriage 🤣

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MichelleofzeResistance · 11/02/2021 13:03

Well I hope in the tiny dating pool he has left of women he may deign to honour with his interest he locates someone kind enough to overlook his.....er..... how shall we put this.....?

total pain in the arseness?

Ilovebigmacs · 11/02/2021 13:09

I'm not a single mother. I'm actually childfree, however if it'll keep men who make misogynistic YouTube videos away from me, I may reconsider!

I don't want to give him views, why should people be avoiding single mothers? What other types of women should people be avoiding?

Shinyletsbebadguys · 11/02/2021 13:14

Grin Damn I had better tell DP. I am 4 years older than him , have in the past (up until covid ) earned more than him , I'm divorced and have two DC from that marriage Grin Full house.

Oh well DP it was nice while it lasted but the man on you tube says off you go.

Oh dear ....the thought that I carry Exdh DNA. I think this guy needs a lesson on biology, he does know I didn't keep exdh DNA right? What am I saying? Of course this guy knows so much more Hmm

OverTheRubicon · 11/02/2021 13:21

He's got a tiny viewership, you do know that by linking here you're only helping him, right?

For those who don't want to help this lame YouTubers, a guy wrote in to him saying he's 31, broke, dating a separated 36 year old who earns $150k a year, has a 3 year old daughter and says she's been in love with him for months, she's 'somewhat submissive' to him, which is apparently a good thing, as is her being a Republican. He isn't in love with her, but she has the connections to make his career take off - should he stay?

Douche says no, because she will always see him as a boy, at a DNA level she will always be married to another man, and her daughter will never be new dude's kid and will end up sexually maturing early, it's biology Hmm

Back in reality, douche has done this lady a HUGE favour in saving her from a 31 year old broke cocklodger who doesn't love her, likes submissive women and douchey YouTubers, and was willing to screw up.her and her daughter's life for some connections. Ugh.

UserID779 · 11/02/2021 13:25

The good thing about this types of videos is they let women know exactly which men to avoid.

JingsMahBucket · 11/02/2021 13:32

@OverTheRubicon excellent summary! 👏👏👏 Thank you for watching do the rest of don’t have to; your sacrifice is very appreciated!

knittingaddict · 11/02/2021 13:35

[quote JingsMahBucket]@OverTheRubicon excellent summary! 👏👏👏 Thank you for watching do the rest of don’t have to; your sacrifice is very appreciated![/quote]
Amen to that.

3JsMa · 11/02/2021 13:35

@UserID779

The good thing about this types of videos is they let women know exactly which men to avoid.
This
Afromeg · 11/02/2021 13:49

Idiots on the internet! What can you do?

I was a divorced "single mother" and sole parent for years before DH came along. If only he saw this wonderful video before willingly and happily tying himself to my useless behind, I'm sure he would have changed his mind - you know, as all single mothers come from the same spaceship and act the same way in every single area of their miserable lives. They're all bad 'uns and all men are awesome.

Didn't click on the link as I don't want to give his stupid arse more views but I've heard this rhetoric a lot. Doesn't surprise me now but was shocked (at first) people held this view. I didn't realise it till I became a single mum.

OrigamiOwl · 11/02/2021 13:58

Back in reality, douche has done this lady a HUGE favour in saving her from a 31 year old broke cocklodger who doesn't love her, likes submissive women and douchey YouTubers, and was willing to screw up.her and her daughter's life for some connections
I agree with this. She sounds like she'd be well shot of him frankly.

ginandwineandbaileys · 11/02/2021 14:08

This is why you should never date a man who has no job, lives with his parents or house shares, and has never been in a long term relationship. He will spend all his time gaming, eating your food, trying to throw his weight around and asking for spending money. I have three teenagers, that's enough for me

anniegun · 11/02/2021 14:10

Tbf there are plenty of very judgmental posts on Mumsnet about unsuitable men so its not surprise it cuts both ways.

Afromeg · 11/02/2021 14:15

For those who don't want to help this lame YouTubers, a guy wrote in to him saying he's 31, broke, dating a separated 36 year old who earns $150k a year, has a 3 year old daughter and says she's been in love with him for months, she's 'somewhat submissive' to him, which is apparently a good thing, as is her being a Republican. He isn't in love with her, but she has the connections to make his career take off - should he stay?

Thanks @OverTheRubicon If only this woman knew her worth (in every way), she wouldn't be holding onto someone who doesn't care for her - Wonder if it's to escape "the deadly single motherhood"?

rawalpindithelabrador · 11/02/2021 14:18

He's probably a dick (I'm not going to increase his viewings), but people are allowed to have whatever dealbreakers they want. I wouldn't date a person who had kids when I was childfree (had other dealbreakers like no fussy eaters, no coke users, no slobs, no mamma's boys, no Tories, etc).

Afromeg · 11/02/2021 14:19

@anniegun

Tbf there are plenty of very judgmental posts on Mumsnet about unsuitable men so its not surprise it cuts both ways.
True. I honestly don't like those posts either and don't go on them. There are unsuitable and suitable individuals in every area of life.

That someone is a man/woman/single mum/childless or just part of any group of people doesn't make them automatically great or terrible.

ginandwineandbaileys · 11/02/2021 14:22

One of the reasons these men have for not dating single mothers is that then they have no time or money for them. They won't get enough attention, and she will hickory tire of him bumming around in her house.
My ex moved into his mother's house/house shared after we split up. He is now living with someone who has never had children and has her own flat, is an art teacher, while he looks for his dream job. I want to shake her awake, but also don't want to get involved.

reprehensibleme · 11/02/2021 14:22

anniegun, the woman mentioned in the video doesn't sound at all unsuitable though, she sounds like an absolute Star, who is well rid of the immature prick she's been dating.

rawalpindithelabrador · 11/02/2021 14:23

That someone is a man/woman/single mum/childless or just part of any group of people doesn't make them automatically great or terrible.

And no one is saying they are, but people are not obligated to date or speak to anyone they don't want to and can have their own dealbreakers as they see fit. One of my friends wouldn't date an Arsenal supporter. That was one of her boundaries.

SinisterBumFacedCat · 11/02/2021 14:23

I’m not watching that as I refuse to give it any oxygen, but I think all women who don’t meet his exacting standards have dodged a bullet.

rawalpindithelabrador · 11/02/2021 14:25

@ginandwineandbaileys

One of the reasons these men have for not dating single mothers is that then they have no time or money for them. They won't get enough attention, and she will hickory tire of him bumming around in her house. My ex moved into his mother's house/house shared after we split up. He is now living with someone who has never had children and has her own flat, is an art teacher, while he looks for his dream job. I want to shake her awake, but also don't want to get involved.
There's an active thread on here featuring a terrific, career oriented woman dating an unemployed man with 2 kids whose 15 years older than her. Want to shake her awake, too.
Afromeg · 11/02/2021 14:27

Deal breakers are one thing - I had them when I was a divorced single mum, probably why it took me years to go into another relationship, let alone marriage. Shocker! You'd think I'd be begging for someone to let me in as the 'second hand outcast' that I was.

The issue is generalising with idiotic statements like, "Don't date single mums, they're this or that, etc".

By all means, have your preference but don't try to make it others' and stop shoving it down everyone's throat as if it should be a universal preference. (Not you in particular, just a general 'you').

OverTheRubicon · 11/02/2021 14:31

@rawalpindithelabrador

That someone is a man/woman/single mum/childless or just part of any group of people doesn't make them automatically great or terrible.

And no one is saying they are, but people are not obligated to date or speak to anyone they don't want to and can have their own dealbreakers as they see fit. One of my friends wouldn't date an Arsenal supporter. That was one of her boundaries.

Fair enough. One of my deal-breakers is when a man says that a divorced woman has had so much sex that she has her ex's DNA in them, for example. And that a younger man would be her 'boy' because she's not having more babies with her husband as she ought to be.

I don't think it's about his deal-breakers - I totally understand why people might not want to date single parents, even as one myself - it's his disgustingly low opinion of women.

Afromeg · 11/02/2021 14:32

@rawalpindithelabrador

That someone is a man/woman/single mum/childless or just part of any group of people doesn't make them automatically great or terrible.

And no one is saying they are, but people are not obligated to date or speak to anyone they don't want to and can have their own dealbreakers as they see fit. One of my friends wouldn't date an Arsenal supporter. That was one of her boundaries.

I agree but they're saying it if they're declaring all insert member of a group as insert description and rendering them universally unfit.

I don't know about this video because I didn't watch it, just saying based on others I've seen.

Is your friend telling others not to date Arsenal supporters? Her boundaries are hers alone. That's my point.

Ilovebigmacs · 11/02/2021 14:35

@rawalpindithelabrador

He's probably a dick (I'm not going to increase his viewings), but people are allowed to have whatever dealbreakers they want. I wouldn't date a person who had kids when I was childfree (had other dealbreakers like no fussy eaters, no coke users, no slobs, no mamma's boys, no Tories, etc).
Anyone can have deal breakers, I have loads. One of which is I won't date people with children because I'm childfree. The difference is I don't make videos denigrating single dads and telling women not to date them because they'll always have their exes dna in them from when they had sex and not to date older men because they'll always see them as daughters and whatever other nonsense this guy is spouting.
boredwiththeoldname · 11/02/2021 14:36

Now he's made that video, any sensible woman will know to avoid him like the plague so he's done them a favour really. Grin