How to deal with DP large belly

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Hi all, been with my partner for 2 years. He’s fairly big framed but average weight until the last year where he’s slowly put on a lot of belly weight to the point he looks like he’s 9 months pregnant which is a turn off as it’s completely changed his shape

The rest of him is still average weight. He naturally has poor self image and is very self conscious about it most of the time and says the gyms being shut has made the issue worse. He cycles a lot of miles but that doesn’t seem to help much.

His diet is okay (not awful but not amazing either) and he has a fairly average appetite.

It’s an awkward topic to talk about as he gets snappy or a bit blue if I happen to be complimentary or even mention someone’s muscles/ ab definitions So I never tell him directly it’s a turn off as he’s hugely complimentary about all my looks since day 1 so I’d feel worse even mentioning it.

Could there be something else going on? I mean, could the sudden abdominal growth be something more sinister? Might be worth getting checked out if it is only the one area?

What’s the issue you want help with? How to tell him it’s a turn-off? (Don’t) Or diet tips? Sexual positions?

You say yourself he knows he’s got fat. It’s not a matter of ignorance for him, but you can’t shame or guilt him into losing weight and he needs to find the motivation himself. Sorry.

Do you really complement someone else’s ab definition in front of your partner? That’s like him saying “cracking pair on her” to you.

There can be medical reasons for abdominal distension.

He should see his doctor.

I believe you heft the belly away from you, then climb on.

A lot of people, myself included, have become less fit since the pandemic began so it could just be that he's eating/drinking more and exercising less- even though he cycles, it might not be enough to offset consumption. If that doesn't make sense, though, he should definitely see his doctor to rule out a medical problem.

I think all you can do is encourage him to eat well and exercise more, especially if you're willing to do it as well. You don't have to be brutal, just say you think you both need to step up the exercise.

I do understand the turnoff, big bellies aren't nice and can limit your physical relationship.