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Dad given months to live - advice on how best to support parents

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flappityflippers1 · 10/02/2021 19:46

Hi,

Basically what the title says - my dad has seen his specialist today, and even if they’re able to put him on treatment (unknown yet if it’ll be funded), he has been told he has months left. He has MDS.

We knew he was terminal, however not been given much steer on what to expect thus far (he’s been sick since 2019). It was a bit of a surprise today as we were all really hoping that he would be eligible for other treatments. Unfortunately he wouldn’t survive what else is available.

I also have a DB(30) who lives with them.

Unfortunately we cannot bubble due to Covid risk, and I’m heavily pregnant with a complicated pregnancy so in and out of hospital a lot - I simply can’t risk passing anything on.

Please could I have some tips and advice on how best to support my parents at this time? I’ve no idea what to do for the best, but know my mum especially is going to need support - she’s my dads full time carer, and doing a sterling job, but she looks so sad and tired.

Brother tries his best helping with cleaning, cooking etc.

Thank you in advance.

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Platinumthumb · 10/02/2021 20:06

Can you see if they are allowed entitled to any carers/possibly benefits so you can hire someone in to help your mum.
If there’s anything your mum can outsource to lighten her load.
Laundry, shopping delivery, meal prep etc.

flappityflippers1 · 10/02/2021 20:10

She has carers allowance, and dad gets the full PIP - I’ll suggest that to her especially regarding laundry.

I’d love to do it myself for her but already have my DMIL helping me with mine as I’m swamped 🙈

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