What time your under 4mo go to bed?

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And are they in a nighttime routine? DS is still wide awake but seems overtired. Think I need to start putting him to bed earlier.

I put my twins to bed at 6:30 when they were 4 months old. Mine had a routine from day one, when we brought them home (the only advantage to NICU).

Quite a long time ago for me but they used to have their bath about 6:30, then into darkish room for a feed and the bed about 7.

DS went to bed when we went to bed when he was that age - 10.30/11. He would dose a bit in the evening on us/in a bouncy chair.

Under 6 months they should be sleeping in the room with you for all sleeps so they just went up when we did

Bath at 6pm, feed and bed in a dark room after that. Today she only lasted until 5:30pm though.
Have done this since she was about 8 weeks old.

By about 8 weeks my second needed to be in a darkened room by 7.miss that and she’d be an overtired wreck but she’d just scream. We had a similar routine for my eldest but she didn’t ‘need’ it in the same way. My second is now approaching 2 and she still implodes around 7 but is much more flexible around her nap and has never had mega long ones. My eldest was more rigid about needing really good naps but could happily mess around at night for ages and be quite chilled out. I think there are some habits that are nature. There is no doubt my eldest is an owl.

Thanks for your replies. I'm struggling to implement any routine really. At the moment we are co sleeping as he just wouldn't settle in the next to me crib and we both got a better night sleep by doing this. But I want to have a bit of an evening with DH and obviously can't leave him in the bed until I go up to bed. Any tips on getting him in the crib? My first just went down without a fuss so this is all new to me!

We just kept the baby with us until we went to bed until they were about 3/4 months old and were establishing themselves into a bit more of a pattern. I think we’d have both been a bit stressed trying to enforce a bedtime at that age.
We’re both pretty relaxed (lazy!) though
Also, we still had an evening together, just with a baby in a basket or on our laps, it didn’t stop us spending time together.

I used to swaddle mine, so they felt safe and cuddled. I would never turn the lights on if they woke up, and would just rest my hand on them rather than pick them up, unless they were very distressed. But still kept the light off.

Wow, this all sounds great. My almost 3 month old sleeps the whole afternoon and is awake the whole evening... I'd love for it to be the other way around

Mine were still feeding frequently through the evening at that age. They stayed downstairs with us until they were six months (as per guidance). They either slept on one of us, or close by in the Moses basket. They generally woke for a feed somewhere between 10 & 11,, so at that point we migrated up to bed, fed and put baby in the basket.

From a round six months, we started trying to settle them upstairs at around 7pm, but it took a while to make it work.