What's the opposite of holding a grudge?

[CrayonInThreeBits]

If never letting go of slights is referred to as holding grudges, what's it called when you'll always remember a kindness someone did you? Surely there's a word for it?

I don't know but I hope there is as I do both in equal measure

I'm the same, potato — I'll remember these things For Ever And Ever

I would say hold a grudge for doing something bad, and say "I'll always have a soft spot for x because they did nice thing"

But I'm not sure there's a word for it and there really should be!

There really should — what does it say about us as a culture, that we have a succinct, well-known phrase referring to never forgetting/forgiving the bad things, but not for the opposite? Other than something like "I owe you one", which seems a bit transactional and colloquial (or more formally, something like "I am indebted to you").

we call it holding a gratitude in our family

That's nice ikeairgin.

Letting sleeping dogs lie?

Forgiveness?

@ikeairgin

we call it holding a gratitude in our family

I love that and am going to start using it, thank you

Forgiveness?

I was going to say being magnanimous, but having read beyond the title I don't think that's quite what you mean.

Holding a gratitude is beautiful! I’m going to try to use that in my family. There’s so many grudges.

"Forever in your debt" ?

Forgiveness?

Amity

Letting it go

I know what you mean OP. 'Owing' or paying back a kindness I would think are the nearest phrases I can think of .

I wouldn't waste the mental energy holding a grudge but I might think . For example , if someone had covered my shift at work then I'd do the same for them as I owe them .

Holding a mudge.

'Always being in my good books' - or, in a romantic sense, possibly 'holding a candle/torch for' !

Do you mean from the pov of the person who has done the bad/lovely thing or the recipient of it?

SausageRoll I mean a word describing the person who will never forget and maybe always feel grateful for a nice thing someone else did. Basically, I want a phrase like "I've got a grudge against him", "she holds grudges a lot", "he won't let go of his grudge against her", but instead of it being a resentment about having been mistreated that they're holding on to that continues to influence their feelings about the other person, it's a state of never forgetting a nice thing someone did.

I would say that person has a special place in my heart for ‘the thing’

Thanks for clarifying that, CrayonInThreeBits - I think I was springing a step further back and overthinking about why you had the grudge or gratitude in the first place.

Doesn't having a grudge normally suggest actively doing things to somebody else whom you don't like for whatever reason, though, rather than being the person who is treated pettily and unfairly as a result of the grudge? Kind of the difference between them having a grudge for you and them not being in your good books? I think I might be confusing myself a little here, but it sort of makes sense to me!

i.e. the recipient of the unkindness having a bone to pick with the perpetrator, whilst the perp is the one holding the grudge against the object/victim?!