Buy a £1000 ring for my son's 21st?

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My son spotted a ring he really likes at a jewellers. It's gold, and has a symbol of the country that both of his parents are from (we are emigres). So it would have meaning. The only thing is, is it's £1000. Now we can definitely afford to pay that for a special gift, but I'd be worried he'd lose it.

I would be thinking if he gets married and wants to wear a wedding ring would this ring become pointless/second best. It is a lot to spend on something that may just be a youthful fashion that has no use.

Why should that stop the OP doing it if she wants to?

Nothing is stopping her. I’d just question whether her son would really want 1,000 quid spent on a ring as opposed to something else? I can’t actually imagine any young person wanting a ring or a watch. A MacBook, yes.

My husband got a gold ring for his 18th, it was really expensive at the time and it was a big gift, hes just turned 40 and it's still on his finger, he never takes it off

If that's what he's specifically asked for then I'd buy it. Why buy something else because you think they'd appreciate it more? Pp: how would you feel if you'd asked for a specific item but were given something completely different because the giver didn't trust your judgement or your own preferences?

@TwoZeroTwoZero

If that's what he's specifically asked for then I'd buy it. Why buy something else because you think they'd appreciate it more? Pp: how would you feel if you'd asked for a specific item but were given something completely different because the giver didn't trust your judgement or your own preferences?

I agree with this tbh

Also- the ring represents something to him. It represents his history. I think it is a very touching idea that he wants something that identifies his family in this way.

If that's what he's specifically asked for then I'd buy it.
Yes, if that was the case. But he hasn’t specifically asked for it.

Oh goodness be careful - I ended up being gifted something that I'd casually remarked on for a milestone birthday. At the time I said it was lovely, I didn't think for one second that the person I was with would buy it for me; so when I opened it, I was so surprised and I felt terrible because it was an expensive item that really has gone to waste (in spite of my making an effort to use it).

Do you know for sure that he really, really wants the ring? Or is it possible that he's just remarked on it because of the symbol?