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Has anyone had a message from the dead?

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SummerBlondey · 06/02/2021 23:09

My Mum passed in June 2020. She was very spiritual. She was adamant before her passing that she would send a sign from the other side. It's now 8 months and no sign. I am normally very non woo, but was secretly hoping for something......

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dianebrewster · 07/02/2021 16:45

when I was in my 20's I rented the top floor of a house from a very old man in his 90's, his rooms were a bit of a timewarp, but he lived on the ground floor and rented out the top two floors. We renters shared a bathroom but had our own sitting room, bedroom and kitchen.

We paid our rent fortnightly. It was the day my rent was due and I was in my room and suddenly knew he had died. There was a definite sense of the presence of death, not scary, not an absence, but I knew. I went down with the rent book and knocked on his door, no response so I opened it and he had died peacefully in the chair, cat on his lap.

I rang the police and an ambulance came, confirmed he was dead, but we had to wait for the coroner's van to come and take him. I was upstairs with the policeman, having a cup of tea, when I heard the other lodger, in her flat, on the phone to the police.

She had come in from dropping her son at school, when she opened the door had immediately known the landlord was dead, checked on him and got straight on the phone.

It was my first experience of death - she had been a nurse and said that she just recognised the atmosphere in the house when she came in.

I have to say it was a really positive experience for me and made me much less fearful of death, the atmosphere was very calm and positive, in my mind it was like he was hanging around to say goodbye to the place (he'd been born there). But a definite sense of someone/something not an absence of anything.

Oversize · 07/02/2021 16:50

The dead don't send messages no matter how much we wish they would. I think it's very hard to come to terms with the loss of a much loved person. I'm sorry your Mum died. It's horrible, that first year especially.

dayswithaY · 07/02/2021 17:34

Hi OP, please ignore some of the arrogant people on here, if they don't believe in such things that's fine but they don't get to tell you what you can and can't believe in. There are lots of things in life that cannot be explained or proven one way or another. I prefer to think that when you love someone that love doesn't just vanish with that person, it lives on in some form.

I loved my grandparents dearly and miss them so much. In the summer I kept seeing a pair of white butterflies that fluttered all around me and they never left each other's side. One day I just said out loud:

"Hi Grandma and Grandad"

They settled down on a flower next to me, I kept seeing them every day and I still called out hello to them. I'm sure some people are snorting with laughter at that, let them laugh. There are signs everywhere OP, you just have to look for them.

Not all messages come through mediums or clairvoyants, remember that.

OohKittens · 07/02/2021 17:43

I've had a photo up of my father and sister up in my living room since before he died (12yrs back). I don't speak to my sister so decided to take it out, as soon as I did I smelt cigarette smoke so strong it was awful. My father was a very heavy smoker honestly around 100 roll ups a day. I'm the most anti smoking person you could meet. I took it as a sign said sorry, put the photo back.

OhCaptain · 07/02/2021 17:48

I’m sorry for your loss.

I think people who are grieving associate things with ‘signs’ because it brings comfort and that’s harmless.

But waiting for a sign and feeling like you’re missing out isn’t going to help you @SummerBlondey.

Dead people can’t send signs, I don’t think. Flowers

PeppaPigMakesMeGrrrrr · 07/02/2021 17:56

The day after my Gran died, a single white feather fell slowly to the ground while I was in the garden. Large open space, no birds or trees above me. It fell so slowly and steadily so not the wind. I'm not woo but I also don't care what anyone else thinks and I like to think it was from her.

MaisyMary77 · 07/02/2021 18:02

I did but not in any spiritual way. My DM died May 2018, the following Christmas I was sorting out my wardrobe. I spotted a rather nice bag for life and found an unopened card in it. It was a Christmas card from my mum. I’d obviously missed it from when she’d given me the bag with gifts in, it was a bit of a shock! Quite comforting a the same time.

Ilovemycat13 · 07/02/2021 18:03

@SummerBlondey I believe in the afterlife and signs. It may still come OP but don’t pin all your hopes on it.

For all the other posters saying point blank ‘no’ - it’s okay to have a little faith. OP has lost her mum, no need to be quite so blunt.

MargaretThursday · 07/02/2021 18:05

Thing is that if you want to take things as signs from her, you probably can take something that's happened.
On the other hand there's probably logical explanations behind most signs.

I remember the day I got up and removed the dead pigeon that a cat/fox had killed and kindly left on the front garden. There were a large number of white feathers blowing around.
Within a couple of hours three people down the road had put something on FB to say that they knew X person was looking out for them because they'd found a white feather in the garden. I didn't say anything.

PolytheneHam · 07/02/2021 18:06

My dad also died in June last year.

I'm non-woo, but last month I begged my dad for a sign he was there. I got nothing. Nothing at all.

A few days ago I had a dream in which my dad spoke to me saying that he was no longer suffering. He told me he could walk properly again. I know the dream was created by my mind though. It wasn't my dad - he's gone and I have to accept that I'll never again have the chance to converse with him.

Nandakanda · 07/02/2021 18:08

For years after my mum died there was a single red Robin used to bounce around outside our back door. My dad died several years later, and we were away for a couple of weeks taking care of the funeral etc. The morning after we got back, our robin had been joined by a partner who hung around for a year or more. It has never happened before or since, and was the most incredible thing.

nicknamehelp · 07/02/2021 18:09

I think they often happen when you are not looking but need the comfort from a message I know I often get messages at times when I am stressed/in need of comfort.

bounce89 · 07/02/2021 18:12

@Inthemane
That is a lovely way of explaining it all.

kateybeth79 · 07/02/2021 18:21

My Gran promised she would to prove there is an afterlife. It's been 17 years since she died and I haven't seen anything remotely like a message/sign from her.

SummerBlondey · 07/02/2021 18:27

@Santaiscovidfree I sometimes wonder if we get indirect signs - I was born in December 1969!

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MrsMackesy · 07/02/2021 18:32

If I believed in that sort of thing, I would say that for several weeks after one parent died, lots of signs were sent and, occasionally over the years, signs are sent from both parents, sometimes at times of great need.

SummerBlondey · 07/02/2021 18:33

dianebrewster WOW!

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Sunbird24 · 07/02/2021 18:35

I’m not generally a believer in the ‘woo’ but I’ve had specific things happen after 3 loved ones have died that have either been a bit odd, or a weird coincidence.
The first was a sudden dramatic change of weather during a wake, when the hated neighbours turned up, think glorious sunshine straight to massive hailstones. The second was a very specific song that was chosen for the funeral coming on the radio as I arrived at their house to choose some personal items to keep, a song that I had never heard on the radio before, and haven’t in the 5 years since. The last was 2 days after a funeral that I hadn’t been able to go to due to work commitments, and my bedroom lamp started randomly flickering - I said “stop that”, and it did! 🤭

Santaiscovidfree · 07/02/2021 18:42

Here it is..

Has anyone had a message from the dead?
MrsMackesy · 07/02/2021 18:47

A message? Coincidence? Wishful thinking? A bereaved mind playing tricks? The older I get and the more I read, see and experience the more I am willing to admit we just do not yet know in this life.

AtLeastThreeDrinks · 07/02/2021 18:55

When my nan passed away I dreamt I was walking along her road. The dream turned lucid (I'd never had a lucid dream before that!) and I heard her calling my name. It was as real as I feel now. She told me that heaven was beautiful and that she hadn't found her husband yet (my grandad, but he died before I was born) but she was looking and knew she'd find him soon. She asked how everyone was coping, I told her and she said she loves us but had to go now.

The dream then shifted back to normal (the opposite of lucid?!). It brought me so much comfort and it felt like such a gift being able to 'speak' to her.

Nandakanda · 07/02/2021 18:58

@Polytheneham

How do you know your "dream" was something created by your mind and not your dad trying to contact you?

Dreams featuring deceased relatives trying to communicate are incredibly powerful. Both myself and DP have had them. We sleep in the room in which my grandmother died.

CyberPixie · 07/02/2021 19:02

When my granddad died over 20yrs ago, I got a message from him a few days after he died. I wasn't close to him, hadn't seen him in over 10yrs nor spoken to him in that time. Knew barely anything about his life.

I was reading and had a strange thought /message that wasn't my own or anything to do with what I was reading. It was... Not green, not blue, not a tshirt not a shirt. Blue slippers and a tin of cat food still under kitchen sink for a year.
I mentioned this weirdness to my mum who phoned my granddad's wife (my step nan) a few days later about the funeral and mentioned this message to her. My step nan was shocked. She told my mum that he died in the bathroom and every morning would put his clothes for the day over the door after his shower. The clothes that day was a turquoise polo shirt and his blue slippers were on the floor. There was also a tin of cat food in the cupboard under the kitchen sink. Their cat had died a year before.

There's no way I would have known any of this. I can't explain it.

flossletsfloss · 07/02/2021 19:06

For all those people saying awful things like - the dead are dead - how the hell do you know? You know no more than the rest of us!

I believe you will receive a sign when you are ready to receive it. I'm so sorry for your loss. Daffodil

HollowTalk · 07/02/2021 19:07

One thing's for certain. If there are signs, they do not come via people who charge you money to receive it.

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