What's reasonable from the hospital in terms of communication?

[Toorapid]

This is my last one (for now) I promise!

DH in hospital almost 4 weeks. No visitors, which is awful, but until the last few days, he's been able to chat normally with me and DC several times a day, plus little texts etc.

In the last few days he's become confused, sleepy and in coherent. The good morning and good night texts have stopped and if he attempts to reply to mine , it's just random gibberish, not even words.

I just tried to talk to him, apparently "the sheep are going out for exercise and then for gin and tonic". Then he started crying because he couldn't separate the sheep. It's heart breaking.

I spoke to a doctor yesterday who said they suspect an infection. What kind of communication should I be expecting re progress? I don't want to be a nuisance but I do need to know what's going on.

Sorry to hear that your DH is unwell and I hope they manage to get on top of the infection quickly.

However, and being brutally honest, don't expect much communication from the hospital. My MIL was recently in hospital and it was very difficult getting updates, even trying to ring them was nigh on impossible. I do hope though that you have a better experience than we did.

Sorry to hear about your DH, wishing him a speedy recovery. My family member has been in since November, on 4 different wards. Each time she moves i phone and ask the nurse in charge what’s the best way to get updates. Mostly we’ve agreed that I will phone daily and they usually give me best time to ring. I then pass on the inf to the rest of the family, rather than several people all calling.

Ok, getting really stressed now. He's just called me but didn't say anything. At first I thought he'd dialed by mistake, but he called straight back when I hung up. He still didn't speak but I think he was sobbing - very noisy in the background so hard to be certain.

I called the ward and they said they'll check on him but they're too busy to call me back and let me know what's going on.

toorapid sorry just seen your update. It is so difficult, knowing that you can't go and see him and you have no idea what's going on. Is he ringing from a bed phone or a mobile?

Maybe try ringing the ward back and seeing how he is - the not knowing is always worse.

and as it sounds like you need them.

If you're not getting anywhere with updates from the ward or the medical team he's under call PALs and explain your concerns re lack of updates, your husbands deteriorating is concerning you. They'll arrange an update with medical teams and you can set a plan up re updates going forward that works for both sides. All the best xxx