Is your family more a Megan-type family or a Catherine type family?

[ImsorryWilson]

a news article just came up about Megan's sister writing a book called something like "diary of princess pushy's sister". :(

I don't have the most solid of families behind me and I know how it has held me back. I see friends who have this sense of security and stability behind them and I see how much it helps them. For instance I can be ruled by emotions at work because people's approval matters too much to me.... each time I advance in my career or life, it exposes the gap that comes from background a bit and I have to deal with it.

thankfully my family is nothing like as extreme as Megan's dad/sister as there are no real money issues (since there is no money :))

but it must be amazing to have a sense of solidity behind you.

Mine is more of a Megan type. My DF was always difficult to live with, and it's only recently I've realised it's because he's a complete narcissist. My eldest sister lost contact with us about 10/11 years ago after a fall out with him, I lost contact with my family maybe 3 or so years ago after a lot of issues with him, and my younger sister moved out last year because she couldn't take it anymore either. Only 2 of my siblings are left in contact with my parents. It breaks my heart to lose contact with DM, but there's no way around it without having to face him as well.

I'm of a Meghan type family, open, slightly dysfunctional whatever goes. My husband's is like royalty. Uptight, passive aggressive, reputation conscious, cold.

I'm not sure if I feel more sorry for Meghan or Catherine but I don't envy either of them.

more Jeremy Kyle than anything else

Sorry I Misunderstood the question. My mum is so disloyal. Always has been. The rest of my family and extended family are amazing.

Mines more Royle Family

Meghan type x 100!

Been NC with any of them for 30 years.

Mine are the Megan type and I get what you're saying OP, it does hold you back and affect your confidence when you feel like you haven't got the support of a loving family to fall back on.
I often feel envious of people like this who have strong positive family connections, many of whom are oblivious to that advantage, as they've never known anything different. Observing this has taught me the importance of it all though, and how to treat my own children. I will do everything I can to nurture and preserve their relationships with myself, DH, siblings and cousins etc.

My family is pretty dysfunctional and I’m NC with my brother, but I can’t imagine any of my relatives writing a spiteful book about me under any circumstances really. It’s just such a cheap thing to do.

Thankfully Meghan had the stability of her mother and her mother’s side of the family but the dysfunction on the other side can still affect you.

Mine are more like the Addams family

I have contact with my father and one of my brothers. The rest of them can take a long walk off a short pier.

Meghan type for sure. I'm not a huge fan of hers or Catherine either for that matter, but I would never comment about her "cutting her own father off" as I see so many do. I know exactly why people want/need to cut their families off and did it myself for many years.

@MMM2

Mines more Royle Family

Hah. This.

Abusive grandad, family of alcoholics and violent, aggressive people.

I'm NC now with my awful uncle and his daughters (as is my DM).

DM's family very Megan-esque. They fall out, they have a sense of entitlement and they viciously and publicly fall out with each other.

DF's family poor but Catherine-esque in that they were supportive.

DH's family relatively Catherine-esque except for one brother who is a thieving troublemaker who does things liek sends so-called anonymous poison -pen letters about DH and their sister to other family members (so a bit Samantha Grant Markle).

Our family- well, we are a little tight unit and we support each other.

My own immediate family are like Kate's minus all that money but my relatives from my mums and dads side of family are worse than Meghan's. I sometimes think my parents were adopted as they are nothing like their own families. I never talk to any of my aunts, uncles and cousins as they are so toxic. They hate to see people doing well and will always spread rumours and badmouth you the second you leave the room to go to the toilet or something. I've witnessed this!

My DH's family and relatives are all like Kate's family too. They all have grace and decorum and are very supportive to each other. They will never bad mouth anyone. This is why my own immediate family and DH's whole family always get on well and have been on holiday a few times. There's never drama and everyone is understanding and accepting.

Neither. We're normal.

My lot - solid Markle. Nasty, sniping, falling out - I have nothing to do with them now.
DH's - mostly Middletons, generally very kind and supportive and kind of posh. The exception is FIL and SMIL who are...something else entirely! Hyacinth Bouquet crossed with Samantha Markle I think

I have a very solid side and a slightly crazier side.

Luckily we were brought up according to the solid and boring method!
The slightly awkward (pushy?) personalities have led to clashes. I reckon that may be the genetic wildcard acting out.

Neither, probably more like Princess Anne's family. Without the horses.

"Our family- well, we are a little tight unit and we support each other."

congratulations winner of life's biggest lottery :)

Thanks. (Mind you there are only 4 of us and two of us are under 12 so it might change)

My immediate family Meghan, but worse. My extended family, Catherine. And yeah I know it’s weird.

I think Meghan's dad, cousins and brother seem fine. I have no idea why she didn't invite any of her family to her wedding. True her brother grows and sells 'markle sparkle' weed, but that is legal in California so he isn't doing anything wrong. I think from what I read, that her family would have her back, but she herself chooses not to engage with them. Perhaps they are not classy enough for her? Tbh I think the question should be, how do you treat your family, rather than how awful are your family, if you are using Meghan as the example here.

@DDIJ it's not a mystery at all. Anyone who's been following your posts is well aware that your mother behaves appallingly towards you, and you can't see that because it's how your life has always been.

It's certainly shameful, but it's not your shame.

Neither. No one would court publicity at the cost of a family member but I wouldn't say I'm particularly close to them either.