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Would you retaliate or be quiet?

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Ifonly86 · 01/02/2021 19:43

This isn’t a drip feed thread with all the details and back story as it’s too outing, I’m genuinely curious on opinions about this situation happening in my neighbourhood....

If you were making a lot of noise that was upsetting your neighbour so much that they complained about you to your landlord, would you 1) work with the neighbour to lessen the disturbance and apologise for disturbing them, or 2) would you be angry they reported you and continue to make the noise/make more noise in retaliation if you knew that no action would be taken against you?

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bellropes · 01/02/2021 19:45

If I discovered that I was causing a nuisance to neighbours, I'd stop doing it.

TheChip · 01/02/2021 19:45
  1. Id hate to think that I was being a nuisance to neighbours.
Swissypup · 01/02/2021 19:47

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and call reverse.

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Ifonly86 · 01/02/2021 19:51

Lol reverse? I’m not even speaking about specific people so what part is reversed? The situation is nothing to do with me, please don’t derail the thread.

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WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 01/02/2021 19:52

Not enough information

Markies · 01/02/2021 19:52

Take it you’re the neighbour who complained and now your neighbours have ramped up their noisy behaviour?

Catflapper · 01/02/2021 19:52

Yeah most people don't want to annoy anyone. An exception would be if their kids are playing outside fairly noisily.
A couple of friends kicking a ball against a garage can sound infuriating but it's a sad day when kids aren't allowed to run around outside

andysdinousaur · 01/02/2021 19:55

Our old neighbours were alcoholics.
People complained about the noise and arguing, the couple would deny it was them. They'd be nice as pie when sober saying they had been in bed by 8pm, then the next night would cause a disturbance again.

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Ifonly86 · 01/02/2021 20:00

Sounds like you lived on my road andysdinosaur!

It’s nice to see there are good neighbours out there that aren’t persistent on destroying innocent people.

Has anyone encountered a neighbour deliberately ‘upping their game’ as ‘punishment’ and how was it dealt with?

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TheChip · 01/02/2021 20:30

My sister did years ago. She increased her noise levels to annoy the noisy neighbour in the same way. I think it ended up in an actual fight in the end lol so it's not something I'd advise.

Could you speak to the council? Keep a log of the noise and the times etc.
The council fitted sound equipment into my parents house when they were dealing with unbearable noise (they didn't want to confront the noisy neighbours). Eventually the noisy neighbours were evicted and moved elsewhere.

Misandrylovescompany · 01/02/2021 20:32

I would create a cryptic thread on Mumsnet and then berate people who posted on it for their unsatisfactory responses.

Frownette · 01/02/2021 20:33

Work with the neighbour first.

LaceyBetty · 01/02/2021 20:36

I think complaining to a landlord is ridiculous. The landlord is not a parent of a naughty child or a boss of a rude employee. They are not the entity to be complaining to. That would annoy me so much as a tenant. Like I was being told on. What is the landlord supposed to do anyway?

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Ifonly86 · 01/02/2021 20:40

Grin you passed, welcome to mi5 misandry

Chip- it was reported and the council refused to take action even with witness statements and recordings, that’s why the family increased the noise levels. I have never come across anyone before that wasn’t willing to be respectful and apologetic in these circumstances, and the things myself and the other ndn have witnessed are shocking.

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bloodywhitecat · 01/02/2021 20:42

Did the person with the complaint try to work with the neighbour before approaching the landlord? Is the complaint justified? My mother would complain about the next-door-but-one neighbour turning their light switches on given half a chance so not all noise complaints are justified in my experience.

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Ifonly86 · 01/02/2021 20:43

Laceybetty the council is the landlord, perhaps I didn’t make that clear sorry. Curious, what action would you take against your noisy neighbours if you wouldn’t ‘tell on them’ to the landlord and they were making your life hell?

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LaceyBetty · 01/02/2021 20:44

@Ifonly86

Laceybetty the council is the landlord, perhaps I didn’t make that clear sorry. Curious, what action would you take against your noisy neighbours if you wouldn’t ‘tell on them’ to the landlord and they were making your life hell?
Police and and council, not a private landlord who has no authority. Your clarifying update changes things.
TheChip · 01/02/2021 20:48

Wow. So they kind of feel invincible now and are taking the piss to rub it in. That must be awful.

Maybe pester the council again and let them know they have increased the noise levels.
I dont know how people can be like that. Id be mortified to find out that I had been stressing my neighbours out with noise levels.

Wildernesstips · 01/02/2021 21:02

@LaceyBetty can you take your complaint higher in the council? They may be able to offer mediation.

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