Anyone else really missing spending time with friends?

[OhDear2200]

In ‘normal’ times I don’t go ‘out out’ that often, maybe once a year! But what I do a lot of is going round to friends or having friends to ours. In the day for a cuppa in the evenings drinks and nibbles. Nothing high brow, just nattering with maybe a little gossip.

I am now deeply missing this. I miss my friends, I miss sharing a bottle of wine, making meals for the people I love.

I don’t want anything big, but goodness I’m sick of spending every weekend with just my (very lovely) family.

Anyone else really, really missing their friends?

Sorry I realise I should have possibly put this in the ‘rona section.

Yes. But for me the most upsetting bit is they don't seem to miss me!

I live alone. I think only seeing the people you live with presents different challenges and I feel for you.

Me. I find it very painful actually

Me! It's so tough. Just looking that this summer we can have the opportunity to do so.

Yes absolutely I rarely go "out out" but miss just casual chats over a cuppa. We often used to meet for breakfast and I miss that.

@tinkywinkyshandbag

Yes absolutely I rarely go "out out" but miss just casual chats over a cuppa. We often used to meet for breakfast and I miss that.

I rarely go out out

Another issue is that people are so sick of being home, in the summer the only friends willing to meet wanted to go to restaurants. This causes issues for me both with money and with T&T.

And one experience was terrible - it was like they were angry about serving customers.

I am also sick of the sight of my flat, but paying to be treated like toxic waste is not my idea of a good time.

I do which is ridiculous as I didn't see anybody socially before lockdown but now I feel lonely even though my social life hasn't changed.

Yep. Making all kinds of plans for luring people over when the weirdness disperses, googling one pot recipes for 20+ people, trying to remember where I put all the ice cube trays... I miss people's faces

Hugely. I'm single, and thankfully have my sister's family to bubble with but damn! I miss seeing my friends so much.

Yes! I love dp but i miss my girls.

I don't have a lot of friends, just 5 but they mean the world to me and i bloody miss them.

@icytravels

I do which is ridiculous as I didn't see anybody socially before lockdown but now I feel lonely even though my social life hasn't changed.

But the option has been removed, which is bound to have an impact.

Not massively missing it. I am a bit introvert though and I spend a lot of time working out excuses so I don't have to meet the other mums for breakfast/coffee and walk/lunch/couples dinners out.

I have done a couple of walks one on one with a couple of people which were nice but not missing the rest of it.

But I get that lots of people do miss it. I'm slightly dreading the resumption of social pressure.

I’m sorry DDIJ, that’s tough, this is crap for everyone for different reasons.

I too am missing friends, I wasn’t a great party animal but I’m dying to go to a bar and dance to some cheesy pop, catch up over coffee or dinner and wander round different parts of London like I used to. I’ve also had to move back in with my parents outside of London as I’ve had a nightmare trying to buy a flat and as a result I haven’t got my own place, so I feel even more isolated being miles away from my friends, even if I can’t see them regardless.

@DameFanny that’s so true! What prompted this thread is me imagining doing a big cheese platter with crusty bread, pickles, nice biscuits and lovely wine. Just something to put on the table to share.

[quote OhDear2200]@DameFanny that’s so true! What prompted this thread is me imagining doing a big cheese platter with crusty bread, pickles, nice biscuits and lovely wine. Just something to put on the table to share.[/quote]
Yes! Just sitting around chatting shit for a while. Had a lovely conversation with a friend I met when we were both going to the village shop at the same time, but we had to talk about proper things, from a distance, to catch up. None of the - just being with people

@DDIJ please don’t think I’ve got this crazy social life, I don’t! I have maybe 2-3 friends who I see in the week. Then some couple friends I see with my DH.

Also I think it’s OK to be happy with your own company.

@DameFanny

Yes! Just being with people!!!

Also people who make me laugh 😫

The Welsh government have just allowed exercise with one other person not from your household so my only local friend because we're not allowed to drive for exercise and I went for a 4 hour walk today in the pouring down rain.

Nowhere near like a lovely catch up on a sofa with a cuppa, but I feel so much better having just seen her rather than messages and phone calls.

My husband was gobsmacked that I missed her so much I was happy to get soaked just to see her (and vice versa).

Big socialisation aka going to pubs etc doesn't bother me, but the little "shall I pop round" moments being taken away is really tough on top of all the other lockdown impacts.

Getting annoyed by people who aren't your family @OhDear2200

I'm so excited. I've started imaging party themes for when we can have parties again. Planning menus and ideas. I used to love hosting parties and I've just bought a house that has a good amount of space and I'm so excited.

Yes, so much. I'm very social and I see my friends most weekends usually.

I miss people a lot

I bumped into three friends in the park the other day when it was sunny. Just chatting (apart) was really nice. I think a lot of it comes from seeing people casually too - school pick up etc all gone

I miss people. Popping round to people's houses, going to the pub, jamming music with my friends. Even being able to drive to nice places for a day out with my fiance. #sigh

Very much so. One of my friends dropped some clothes off for my DD today - she was on her way to do the shopping.

I would have given anything for a hug and a catch up over a coffee.

I miss seeing her so much.