19yo DS1 can spend over an hour in the shower

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The condensation is ruining the bathroom and I dread to think what it costs.

However, apart fron this one issue, he's a model son/housemate. He cooks and cleans, he's considerate with noise, tidy in the main house, his room maybe not so much, but that's up to him, works fulltime and contributes to household bills and helps with his father's care.

DH, his father, is currently critically ill, so this is not the time to rock the boat, but I am concerned about the damage to the bathroom.

We talk about it, he promises to take shorter showers, he does for a day or so, then goes back to the ridiculously long showers.

WWYD?

Get him to crack open a window? If the costs aren’t an immediate concern, it really doesn’t seem a battle worth having.

The window's always open a crack, we have an extractor and have recently bought a dehumidifier too, but an hour long shower is a lot of steam.

The ceiling is black. I clean it and it's black again within a couple of weeks.

Maybe that is his escape zone ?

I spend my time in the shower with a squegee trying to make sure there are no limescale marks, my DS was horrified, he said showers are for music and blocking out the real world.

Agree just open a window, when he has gone.

You need mould resistant paint for the ceiling

I'd make him clean the ceiling. But other than that, leave him be.

If that’s what he wants to then fine. But he pays and organises the cleaning and re-decorating fall out. When people experience the implications of their actions then it normally makes them think

There's a spray you can get from b&q that is magic at removing the black marks.
And agree about it being his escape. At one point in lockdown I was having two long baths a day.

Actually, DS painted the ceiling with mould resistant paint about 3 months ago, it's flaking off!

Yes, we have a dehumidifier which he runs for an hour when he eventually gets out.

I'm sure it is his escape.

I'm guessing he wouldn't prefer a bath instead? I can easily spend an hour (and more) in the bath

An hour is totally ridiculous, escape or not. Can he have a bath if he wants to soak?
He sounds a reasonable person though, so maybe ask him to put a timer on his phone of 15 mins (which is still excessive to me, but a lot better than an hour) which may help stop him slipping back to old habits.

Sorry about your dh, I hope things improve.

Buy the spray, dry the ceiling, humidifier if need be.
I agree it's his release at a time when not much else is available.
Budgeting websites approximate that ten minutes in an electric shower costs 15 pence. So c£1.00 for an hour. If that's his only foible just let it go at the moment.