Need to break the rules but scared to.

[Serena1977]

Dm lives 50 mins away in my home town. Df died long time ago so she lives alone. She's really struggling with lockdown this time round. Also, my dcs are missing her a lot and are also struggling more with this lockdown. I want us to meet up in a local park to her so they can see each other. She hasn't seen them since October and me since December when we did a doorstep present swap.

I feel so guilty but feel I need to do this for us all. It's also my birthday on Sunday.

What would you do?

Can't you form a support bubble with her? Then you can see her without breaking any rules.

If she is on her own are you not in a support bubble together? Which would make this perfectly fine and legit.

I'd go

It's your choice and you know what people will say.
It's not ok to break lockdown because you feel you need to, a lot of people are in somii situations and if we all just do what we want this will last longer and more people will die.
Technically you can probably do it as you could form a bubble with your mum if she lives alone, but that doesn't make it ok

Yes, unless she (or you) are already bubbled with others, you can legitimately form a support bubble.

Problem is, she is in a bubble with my brother who lives much closer but he does bugger all to help or support and she hasn't seen him for at least 2 weeks. He doesn't pull his weight in helping me support her since Dad died 14 years ago. He told me on my wedding day that because I had got married after him, she was still my responsibility. But he's a whole other thread! We're not bubbles with anybody.

Well you can swap bubbles if you have a gap of 10 days (in England and now Wales) so that would be allowed.

Ditch your brothers bubble and bubble up with her if you're actually going to go and see her. What use is a bubble if it's not giving her the social interaction it's designed for?

I use my support bubble every day, I'd go bonkers without it (single parent household, almost 3 year old toddler)

If shes not seen him for 2 weeks she can swap bubbles to you unless you have a separate one

Just go see your mum.

I would meet her. There are Covid rules and then there is compassion and love. All of life is a risk. It’s just the Covid risk is highlighted to us every day with numbers and videos etc etc. Go see you Mum. Mental health is just as important as physical health

Then ask her to swap to form a bubble with you. I'm not sure if that's allowed but I guess a one off swap cant hurt especially as she hasnt seen him for 2 weeks

Just go and see her. Could she come and stay for a few days? My MIL was picked up by my SIL and is staying there because she needed support, mentally more than physically as she wasn’t coping well on her own.

Just go.

Go. After that length of time, it's effectively a switch of bubble anyway.

Go. If it makes you feel better you only have to leave 10 days between changing support bubbles. There, you have a support bubble. Go!

Sorted then. I never suggested bubbling with me instead of my brother because he is closer geographically and I need to drive 50 mins where as brother only needs to drive 5 minutes so I thought that ruled me out.
We'll swap bubbles.

I was going to say swap bubbles

Glad you are

@Serena1977

Dm lives 50 mins away in my home town. Df died long time ago so she lives alone. She's really struggling with lockdown this time round. Also, my dcs are missing her a lot and are also struggling more with this lockdown. I want us to meet up in a local park to her so they can see each other. She hasn't seen them since October and me since December when we did a doorstep present swap.

I feel so guilty but feel I need to do this for us all. It's also my birthday on Sunday.

What would you do?

Just do it.