"So are you trying for a boy next?"

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I have a dd, born last year. Between dh and I, we have a very male heavy family.

The last month or so, all I've heard from various relatives is, "Are you trying for a boy next?". It's just infuriating.
A) I had a mmc before dd and am very grateful to have a healthy baby, I could honestly have not cared what sex she turned out to be.

B) We aren't even sure we will ever have any more children.

C) We aren't ttc! Since when did our sex life become up for public, open chat with family?!

D) No, we wouldn't be trying for any particular sex. What would a boy possibly bring to our lives that our dd doesn't already? If we had another child, what would be wrong with, dare I say it, a second daughter, if one were conceived?!

When I've challenged it, people brush it off as it's nice to have one of each. Why oh why do people feel it's okay to just ramble on about this, as if having a girl didn't quite hit the mark the first time? For reference too, my family are besotted with dd.

It’s annoying and exactly the same but other way around of you’re a mum of a boy first time around... when I was pregnant with #2 the amount of people that said they were hoping for a group for us was crazy! (He was a boy!)

This is horrible of them especially if they know your history. I have been TTC #1 for two years and really hate sex preferences, maybe if I hadn't struggled though I might have had a preference, although through he lens of what we've gone through n
it seems irrelevant.

My best friend is pregnant with#2 and doesn't care if it's another girl or a boy.

Hoping for a girl not a group! Replying with my left hand whilst feeding a wiggly baby!!

Just say "no, we're only doing anal at the moment". That should shut them up.

I have three dds and I remember when I had dd2, my mum’s neighbour came to visit and she said to me ‘oh no poor you, it’s fine you’ll have a boy next time’ 😳😡 I was so lost for words I couldn’t string together a sentence.

It's what people say ,I have two boys and was asked if I was going to try for a girl it's annoying.

@ConspiracyOfOne  haha good idea!

@H1978 that's terrible! It seems that people have no filter!

ugh i hate this

i have a dd and have just found out im having another girl and people have been asking my other half if he is disappointed.
he is thrilled . he would of been either way

We've had the opposite. I have a dd and ds, as soon as ds was born I was told by many people that I don't need any more children as I now have a complete set. At the time we were thinking that two kids was enough but would've thought that if ds would've been another girl. I now want a third and really don't care whether I have a girl or a boy at all. It's no one else's business

How do you "try for" either sex?

Urgh I hear you!

Its horrible the comments people make.

I have two gorgeous boys. When I had my second I got lots of "aww what a shame- you can always try for a daughter next time"!

Like- WTF? I dont want to try again, I'm very happy with my lovely boy thanks. You just have to ignore them- people are arseholes

Curious as how you try for a boy?

Do they mean you just keep having children until you get the desired sex?

Curious as how you try for a boy

I wonder this too! so ridiculous

We had our ds and we’re going through the adoption process. Our social worker said it would be nice to have a girl. I replied that I wanted a child that would join our family, and that I wouldn’t be able to choose if I could conceive naturally and felt that I didn’t want to choose through adoption.
Those comments are so frustrating and actually really rather stupid. Says more about them than you.
Enjoy your babies whatever sex they are, they’re all individuals and totally special in their own way.

My cousin had this when she had her dd. When she had her second dd she was asked if she would have any more kids. She has always said she only wants two no matter the sex. A family friend actually said better look next time to her. She didn't retaliate when the woman said it to her, I think I would have decked her.

I had a dd first and then ds. When ds was born I got told that that was me done and that I didn't need to have anymore kids. What if I wanted another? Turns out I did and am expecting a third. I genuinely couldn't care less about the sex, I didn't with my other pregnancies either.

Not sure why people don't think before they throw careless remarks around. Ignore them and enjoy your dd x

People just say annoying things. When I was pregnant with ds2 (1.5 year gap) I lost count of the amount of people that thought it was ok to ask me if he was planned.

I also got a lot of ‘are you hoping for a girl?’ And ‘oh another boy ’ ‘will you try again for a girl?’

I will be soon to ttc again and have no preference at all but I’m sure I will get a lot of annoying comments about hoping it’s a girl.

@CallmeAngelina there is a theory that if you have sex when ovulation occurs you will have a boy as y-sperm swims faster than x-sperm so y-sperm is more likely to fertilise the egg. The same theory states that if you have sex before ovulation occurs and not at ovulation then you will have a girl as x-sperm are more resillient and live longer than y-sperm and is more likely to fertilise the egg. It is called the shettle method I think and tbh is probably just a theory but some people swear by it.