Pandemic affecting your family/future planning?

[Goostacean]

Just pondering, and was wondering whether Covid has affected your plans for kids? Either in the short term, not wanting to be pregnant in a pandemic etc. Or in the long term?

I’d love a third, maybe TTC at the end of this year... But I’m so much more acutely aware of how much we need a garden (and therefore to move house), not being able to have the family support we’re used to, homeschooling in the future if this were to happen again...

Yep. I’d love a second but in this pandemic world it’s just not worth the risk even though we are saving more money and house is already good and good garden. Potentially going to scans or giving birth alone, nurseries and schools closed. Poor health visitor provision. Even smear tests delayed. Just no. Not to mention my first is an ivf baby so I’d probably struggle to get in with an appointment for an embryo transfer anyway.

Makes sense although I’m sorry to hear it. Do you think you’ll go for it when things are more normal, in a couple of years’ time maybe?

I'm.waiting to hear if the NHS will give us IVF. Eight months until I'm illegible due to age. DP had treatment for infertility booked that has been cancelled due to Covid. We may never have children at all thanks to the pandemic and the idiots that broke the rules over Xmas filling up the hospital beds.

We have decided to go ahead and TTC as planned this year... I'm turning 32 and we want 2 DC (this would be our first together) so we don't want to leave it longer.

I'm planning on a homebirth ideally, and a couple of private scans to take DH if we can't do that in the NHS ones (though I believe many trusts are now reopening to partners for scans).

After weighing up the pros and cons we felt it wasn't worth putting our lives on hold and risking age related issues further down the line.

I've just had my third baby in December and honestly she's been my hope and light in these isolating days. Despite covid she's brought such positivity, I'm currently sat cuddling in awe of her. Even the pregnancy over the last year was such a welcome distraction

Ahhh that’s just awful, Tits. I’m so sorry. Got everything crossed for you. The backlogs for all kinds of treatments just don’t bear thinking about.

Aw that’s lovely viixie! I’m relaxed about partner at scans and relatively calm about giving birth alone, if that were to happen, although we’re talking min 18 months from now, so I hope it wouldn’t! I guess the whole situation has just made me reconsider a lot of life choices and options. Two is hard enough if you have to isolate, but with 3??