Single mam

[Lou867]

I really love my son but I feel like I'm drowning especially with the current situation. His dad won't have anything to do with him basically going round saying he doesn't believe he's his simply so he doesn't have to do anything. I've offered to prove it but he ignores me. I have a family but my sister has her own kids and wants nothing to do with it all. My mum has him when I go to work because I work alone of nights.
I feel resentful of women who have supportive ex partners. I've just been left on my own its so hard. I dread getting up because I know its going to be the same shit yet again

I don't think you would really want to leave your son with a man who acts like this father or not. Are you getting CM payments if not apply for them....

I understand a little of how you are feeling as I raised my own ds with no immediate family around, it is incredibly difficult but at least when I did it we weren't in Lockdown. You can request help from SS if it is too much or Gingerbread the lone parent charity...

I understand if you are just struggling to battle through, it is so hard...you are lucky to have your mum and to be able to work nights. Well done...sounds like you are doing fantastically well.It does get easier the older they get I realise this doesn t help much now.

Yeah I am lucky she helps me. She doesnt want to but she feels she has no choice. I work 12 hour shifts so even on a day shift she has to help.
I know what you mean but its the way he's just like out of sight out of mind. I would never have gone near him of i knew he could act like this. When I've tried to contact him before hes threatened me with the police saying I'm harassing him.
I chased him for maintenance just after son was born. He knows he's his he just doesn't want anything to do with him

I would really pursue it through CM....they will force him to cough up at least.....Other than that stay well away he sounds horrid. Your mum is a good mum she is helping you and standing by you. He cannot threaten you with the police, they would be on your side not his.

You are a hard-working mum big up yourself girl, you are worth far better. I know it is grinding and relentless and you never get time just for you but this time will change and you and your son will have an amazing relationship.

My ds is 18 now and I am so proud of him, grew up with no father and he is amazing. Now, I have this strong, achieving young man in my life who makes me giggle uproariously and we look after each other.

Your time will come and I really wish you strength and endurance, it is so hard I know.