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Catatonic teens.....

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slavetothenhs · 26/01/2021 15:17

I've got my DD 19 and her boyfriend living at home with us. They are both furloughed and absolutely bored bloody shitless. They have been very good and haven't caught up with any friends etc but I think at the moment they are just coming to the end of their tolerance for the current situation. DD hasn't got out of bed today, boyfriend has shut himself in the lounge gaming. I've tried to tempt them out with a drive to McDonald's but that's scraping the barrel really. Normally they would at least go for a walk down to the shop or something but that hasn't happened for the last few days. I can't blame them really but am struggling to think of ways to stay positive, what is everyone else in the same situation doing???

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MrsPernicious · 26/01/2021 15:23

Teens with catatonic depression do not game.

Santaiscovidfree · 26/01/2021 15:25

Not teens but my ds 26 hads redecorated his entire house recently!! Any diy they could be doing? A teen on Pinterest did some amazing revamps!

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slavetothenhs · 26/01/2021 15:31

That's a good idea actually, her room could do with decorating and I've definitely got some paint somewhere. Just feel sorry for them. And to previous PP my DD does have a long history of suicidal mental health issues - perhaps catatonic was a poor word choice but I am getting worried.

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Stompythedinosaur · 26/01/2021 15:33

They are adults, I'd leave them to it tbh. I'm sure they can arrange their own activities!

Stompythedinosaur · 26/01/2021 15:35

I posted before your update - if you are worried about your dd then can you try a heart to heart chat?

NoSquirrels · 26/01/2021 15:41

Can they cook & take over meal planning?

As PP says some decorating?

What are they into usually? Music, crafts, movies?

RuleOfCat · 26/01/2021 15:48

Lookingat your second post, there's a huge difference between teens being a little lazy and a teen in bed with a history of clinical depression - of course that will get you worried.
Can you talk to her about the importance for her mental health of getting up and dressed every workday, going for a short walk, regular showers? Say that you're concerned this lethargy will make her sink into another depression. If possible, would she consider a virtual GP appointment to look at whether the point is right for ADs?
The BF is doing fine with his gaming, that's not the main health problem - as long as he's not annoying you and pulling his weight with the cleaning.

FlyingByTheSeatof · 26/01/2021 20:37

Just leave them to it.

There's nothing worse than someone trying to get you out of the house on pointless trips etc when you just want to chill out at home.

I'd be happy that they're not bothering me and doing their own thing.

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slavetothenhs · 26/01/2021 22:30

Soooooo.... After further probing it actually turns out DD ran out of her antidepressants A WEEK ago and didn't think to tell me. Somehow I feel this may go a long way to explaining why she is suddenly feeling low. I'll be on the phone to the GP first thing to order more!

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PoptartPoptart · 26/01/2021 23:01

In the nicest possible way, I think you should be encouraging your 19yo DD to take responsibility for her own medication, instead of ordering it for her.
I understand that as her mum you want to help, but that help should be in the form of encouraging her to be independent and taking steps to ensure she manages her mental health, be it ordering her own medication in good time, healthy eating, exercising, etc.

smoothchange · 26/01/2021 23:20

I'll be on the phone to the GP first thing to order more

Can she not do this herself?

FlyingByTheSeatof · 27/01/2021 14:21

Clearly she hasn't done it for herself which is why OP is doing it.
But yes it would be a good idea if you sat with DD and emailed or called your GP for a prescription and ask for it to be put on repeat at a chemist of your choice

smoothchange · 27/01/2021 16:06

Clearly she hasn't done it for herself which is why OP is doing it.

Hasn't does not mean can't.

Frenchfancy · 27/01/2021 16:10

Obviously some of you have never had a teen DD with mental health issues! Have some bloody sympathy.

OP hope you got a prescription sorted out.

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slavetothenhs · 27/01/2021 16:42

Thank you for the replies - DD has autism, so although she generally manages fairly well, ringing the doctors (or ringing anyone!) is something she really struggles with. However a new prescription has been ordered today hurrah, hopefully it will lift her mood a bit once she starts taking her meds again!

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smoothchange · 27/01/2021 17:12

@Frenchfancy

Obviously some of you have never had a teen DD with mental health issues! Have some bloody sympathy.

OP hope you got a prescription sorted out.

I wasn't being unsympathetic, I was asking OP if her DD could do it herself.

Absolutely no judgment was made.

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