Any other textroverts out there?

[CharadeSalad]

Anyone else shy in public but extrovert via text and messaging? I know a few people who are surprised at my extroversion in text compared to my crippling inability to reproduce this in 'real life'. It is actually quite difficult, I had a wonderful conversation with someone the other night, quite funny and also deep and meaningful. Saw them the following day and found myself literally backing away as they walked towards me and they even commented on it. I on the other hand just felt my throat close up and barely said anything and almost certainly looked rude I would love to be the extrovert part of me but in public my voice, brain and even hearing seems to shut down. Anyone else?!

Yes I recognise myself in this. I prefer texting to actually speaking. Mostly because it cuts out too much waffle and just gets to the point of the conversation. I find small talk in person awkward and cringey and I'm sure my face shows it .

I also find it difficult being put on the spot and having to answer questions quickly, particularly when its personal stuff. I tend to blurt out any old crap and share too much information that leaves me cringing for days afterwards! Texting allows me to edit my random idiotic thoughts before I share them.

Oooh! This ^^ with sleigh bells on! Have said it m, word for word, one too many times as well.

Wow where did my sign go? I wrote "This ^ with sleigh bells on..."

Anyway I agree.

I don’t think this is an extroversion/extroversion thing, I think you’re just someone who is more articulate in the brief, no-pressure, no-faces, written context of text messages.

A friend of mine is a well-known novelist, who writes long, thickly-plotted novels which often feature challenging, ferociously-outspoken outliers who challenge convention. In person, she’s a reserved, near-silent, mousy presence who could easily be mistaken for the wallpaper.

True, I also think it's not so much an extroversion/introversion issue. There are introverts who are outgoing face to face and extroverts who are shy (not that introversion = shy) or 'socially awkward'.

Extroversion/Introversion/Ambiversion is more about dopamin receptors/energy levels or so than interests or behaviour really but this tends to lead to some similarities in behaviour.

*dopamine

I hate speaking on the phone, noisy places, and big groups. Small talk.

With written word.. it's brilliant. No one can hear that slight speech impediment. No one can make fun of me if I mix words up (like shoulder and soldier, and Pacific and specific.. my head thinks one thing, my mouth says another).
I find it easier to be me from behind a green or writing letters.

Behind a screen, not a green.

I always preferred letters to phone calls, then emails, texts - written rather than spoken.

I like the time that texting gives me to curb my natural over sharing nature.

Anybody else really want to know who @Kilcaple's friend is?