Newborn, toddler and poorly dh

[TheGracefulwhale]

I just need to type the shitness of this out.

I has a c section 9 days ago.
Dd is 9 days old and breastfed
Ds is 2.5yrs and struggling with lockdown and his new sibling.
DH and I both awaiting covid test results. I feel like shit.
Dd has just woken for a feed and dh has gone into the front room to sleep as he now feels sick and has the shits too.

Fanfucking tastic.
I've had 2 hours sleep...

(((Hug)))

When do you get to go into the front room and sleep? Your DH needs to be watching your DS/helping you. Sorry, it sounds really shit x

@Kinsters - it is shit for the OP- but if my partner had diarrhoea- I would be keeping them away from a newborn in case it was infective. It does sound shit OP- I hope you both feel better soon.

I also just realised it's the middle of the night for you. Good point re the diarrhoea and newborn SD. I guess just try and get through the night OP and in the morning hopefully DH will have had some rest in the front room and can look after your son while you stay in bed with DD.

Sounds horrible Op. Good luck! I still vividly remember norovirus in our household, and we only had the one toddler at the time.

Tomorrow is an anything goes day for your toddler. As long as he is fed (and snacks are food) and is safe then stick the tv on all day and just survive.

Hopefully DH will feel better after a nights sleep. And hopefully you manage to get some sleep!

DH will just have to suck it up and lift/feed toddler. Ok, he's got diahorrea, but you're too near a C section tear to lift toddler, compromising newborn baby immuno to be in close contact. He needs to step up wash hands, use hand san (which I'm sure you've abundance of due to COVID).

Dd woke at 1.30 to feed. Finally went back down at 3.20 and is now up again. Went into the front room to change her (we are in a flat and that's where the change table is) and dh asked if I was OK. When I said no he didn't say anything and just went back to sleep. I feel poorly too you know

That’s a hideous situation all round.
Is there anything you can get him to do to make life easier- order in some microwave meals- particularly for the little one? Some interesting snacks to keep them entertained?
Do nothing you don’t have to.
The newborn stage is awful enough on you physically and mentally without covid.
Tomorrow you need to talk to him and have a battle plan.
Really hope you manage a couple of hours.

Sorry it's all happening at once do you a friend who can get you some easy meals or do a online shop for you? Thinking that even saves you having to think x

Thankfully I batch cooked and froze some meals in advance of dd's arrival. SIL has also been amazing and cooked us some food. I baked with ds the other day (I wouldn't advise 7 days post section) so we have that to eat up too.
I'm better prepared for this sort of thing than I ever would have been before!
We had a chippy last night and dh thinks the sausage is what's upset his tummy which I'm glad about as it means me and the kids might not catch it.
Thank you all for your sympathy, I really needed it!
Dd has just had another feed, I feel empty of milk and like I need a bit of space from someone sucking on my nipples... Which I know I will get today, just ds will want to play trains during that break!
Hopefully covid tests are negative and we can look forward to Thursday when ds has 2 days at nursery which, let's me honest, Is a lot more stimulating than home right now, and dh and I can sleep when baby sleeps

DH ate a dodgy sausage? Awww, the poor lamb! Surely that massively trumps your invasive C section surgery 9 days ago whilst you brought a human being into this world He needs to buck the fuck up and stop laying about on the sofa with his 'poorly tummy'. You have a poorly tummy! Your stomach muscles have literally been torn apart to deliver a baby! He's just being a pathetic excuse for an adult with a case of 'the shits' which I'd assume isn't dysentery, and he's not undergone major surgery on his 'very poorly stomach/nor useless arsehole'

Think pp are being quite harsh about your DH.

Yes, you both feel shit - but everyone will feel worse if he gave the baby and toddler diarrhoea and sickness. And, unfortunately, you're the one breastfeeding so the one best placed for now to look after the baby while awarding them a degree of immunity. It's not like he's fannying about with man flu.

I do massively sympathise with you and your situation though - I've also got a toddler and had a c section three weeks ago. So getting sick in these circumstances is my worst nightmare because I know everything will fall on me

Oh god you poor thing.
TV on a loop for 2 Yr old today. Don't even think about it.
You just try to keep yourself fed and hydrated, don't forget to drink lots while you're feeding a newborn.
Dh will have to fend for himself.