Hi all,
Let me give you a bit of a background to the reason for my question...
I got pregnant at 21 with my ex partner. We got an abortion as we had only dated 3 months and neither of us was ready for a child. This hit me hard mentally and physically.
18m later I fell pregnant again and found out 3m after we had broken up (I caved and slept with him during this time) and so we decided to see this one through.
It wasnt a bad relationship. Id just outgrown him, he wasnt mature, he didnt take things seriously but was a caring and loving guy.
Sadly I got made redundant. Had a miscarriage the next day. My ex didnt visit me. I ended it for real.
I think it is because of this I became obsessed with planning. For a home, a family, everything.
Ive been with my new partner for over 2 years now. We have spoken about kids and brought a pup together a few months back. We had a plan to try and put a deposit down on a home in 2022 and try for a kid just before (like oct 21)
But I cant help but obsess over what I can buy, could I convince him to try for a kid earlier etc. I cant focus on anything else and its kinda making me crazy...
Did anyone else go through this?