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What to expect from partner with children?

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Yellow653 · 24/01/2021 00:12

First time poster, hoping for insight.

I’ve been in a relationship with a man for a year who has 4 children from a previous relationship. I’m 28 and keen to start a family, this man makes me very happy and his children & ex don’t really phase me. They were not married but still own a property jointly. I have met his 2 older children and we get along very well.

I would like to know what hurdles I could expect, I understand navigating relationships will be difficult and reception from my family might be guarded/negative but really long term is what I’m in the dark about. He knows I intend to be married, house all that jazz.

He’s extremely kind and I’m optimistic about the two of us but I want to go into this with a clear understanding of what life might be like and what compromises I will need to make.

I’m aware that I’m naive which is why I’m asking for help from this community x

OP posts:
CrocodilesCry · 24/01/2021 00:16

I was younger than you and DP had one teenager when we met. It was tough sometimes but he's great and he's nearly 30 now.
Four? I'd run a mile TBH.

Plonque · 24/01/2021 00:30

You're 28 and that is s as hell of a lot of baggage and I'm guessing a much much older man? Don't do it.

BeforeThisThenWhat · 24/01/2021 00:35

It crazy to be wanting to start a family with someone you’ve only been dating a year. What the rush? How old are his kids.

Is he well off? Four kids plus another family will be a lot for him to support.

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