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Abortion.

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Pgr3012 · 23/01/2021 10:30

I just found out I’m pregnant roughly 4 weeks im 25 and my partner 30. I’m just really undecided on what I want to do. We already have a girl aged 5 and right now we are comfortable money wise and just having 1 child. What is going through my mind is more money worries. We are engaged and would love to get married. We are renting a tiny 2 bed flat which we will struggle for space and would love to save up for a mortgage but that will no longer be realistic if we have another child. I have no support on my side and my partners mum helped out ALOT with childcare but now his sister has had a baby she will be looking after her baby which means when I have to go back to work we will have no childcare from family so will have to pay for nursery which really we can’t afford. I just don’t know what to do. I have no one to talk to about this and would love someone to speak to. My partner is very very supportive and we had a conversation about it trying to come to the right conclusion. The other issue is that he has already told his family about the pregnancy so what can we say if we do have an abortion? His family is very baby orientated and kept asking when we are having another one so I almost felt pressure from them to get pregnant and now it’s happening I’m not sure it was the right decision.

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elelel · 08/01/2022 11:22

Reported.

But on a more serious note, how insensitive would you have to be to post an advertisement on a thread about abortion almost a year later Angry

Thatsplentyjack · 08/01/2022 11:25

I think the OP is aware of what an abortion is Confused
OP only you can make the decision. If it helps I have 3 in a 2 bed flat at the moment. They are 13, 8 and 11 months.
Could you ask your mil if she would be able to help with childcare? Just so you don't make any decisions based on thinking she can't when she could.
Could you save as much as possible for a deposit for a house while you're pregnant?

Thatsplentyjack · 08/01/2022 11:26

🙄 just seen the dat of the OP!

Pyewhacket · 08/01/2022 11:28

If it were me, I'd consider termination. You can tell his folk that you had an early misscarriage. Life in a tiny flat with limited childcare will melt your brain.

Pyewhacket · 08/01/2022 11:29

Oops, Zombie but I wonder what happened ?.

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