Anyone want to play wedding planning with me? What would you prefer as a guest?

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Anyone fancy playing wedding planning with me? We will be waiting until we can have a proper day, which we know may be a while.

option a) my childhood church + local hotel. Hotel is fine, but doesn't really inspire me. Hotel is 10 minute walk from church- I am concerned that is quite far if it rained (not much of a chance of a taxi in the village).

option b) childhood church + coach to further out hotel, which is lovely. Less suitable for DP's family.

option c) church we currently attend + city centre venue. Puts both families to equal hassle....

Honestly, just go with you and your DP’s first preference.

You can’t please everyone during wedding planning, it just isn’t possible. It’s not like your options are between a local village wedding and a destination wedding in Australia or something.

Prioritising guest convenience is 100% the right thing to do, but when you’ve put on coaches and made it easy for people to attend, there has to be a cut off where you put that to one side and consider what YOU want to do.

B but I don't think a coach is necessary. I have been to loads of weddings where reception venue is a drive away and everyone drives to church and then to reception venue. Those who use public transport find someone to lift share. I helped one friend who didn't know anyone sort that part out. It's the norm among my friends and family.

A 10 min walk is also fine though, or people can drive! I went to a church wedding once where there was very limited parking so they asked everyone who was able to park a 10 min walk away and it was no problem at all.

B with C the second choice.

City centre venue, easier for guests who travel by train and easier to get hotel nearby at variety of prices and avoid lots of expensive taxis

Prefer A

It's not about convenience for anyone it's about what will make you and your DP happy.
Likewise do what you can to help them but it's not your responsibility to do everything for them.
It's nice you want to but you will spend so much time worrying about others that you won't actually enjoy your day.

Hmm.
I woudl expect to have to drive myself from church to reception. Then my car is at reception. My choice as to whether I drive home/car share/taxi.

I would hate a coach. I like to be free to leave when I am ready.

Bonus point for C is that we could have a choir singing. I'd like that.

And with it being your current church, I'm changing my vote to C.

How close are you to your current church? Emotionally I mean, not distance.

I am a church going, and I really wanted my church to be part of the wedding. Is that a consideration?

With all 3, where are people staying? For my wedding, everyone apart from my parents had to travel. There wasn;t anywhere we could ahve done it where that wasn;t the case. So for us, it was a combination of - we finished a little earlier, so people who wanted to could drive home (most were 1-1.5 hours away) and there were a lot of Band Bs nearby.