What consequences for swearing? 13yo ds

[tenlittlecygnets]

13yo ds just mouthed at 16yo dd, 'fuck off, bitch'. She is very upset.

They have been winding each other up and niggling at each other - lockdown.

Consequences??

Anyone?

Keep them apart for a bit. Tell him to apologise once they have both calmed down. I'm not sure I would do any more.

I would just give a right telling off, tell him it’s completely unacceptable to speak like that and it had better not happen again. I would also expect him to apologise when he’s ready.

Fairs.

It's really horrible, though, and the thing was that she hadn't done anything nasty to him. Just low-level niggling that he had started.

Try and get him to apologise and leave it,we are all trying to cope at the moment and as long as he knows you dont approve hopefully it wont happen again(much).

Hard to say when we weren't there and can't really get a flavour of what went on. I'd certainly be telling him bluntly that name calling like that is not acceptable behaviour, especially if he did it with venom and not in jest.

Mind you, all of my three at 16 were able to give as good as they got, so from me all that was usually needed was a good, firm "That's ENOUGH, you lot" and it would subside.

I have teens and I would be really upset that he thinks it's ok to call her a bitch. I guess it's not too serious if this is a one-off, but if it happens again I'd be doing some serious shouting / losing screen time etc.

@tenlittlecygnets

Fairs.

It's really horrible, though, and the thing was that she hadn't done anything nasty to him. Just low-level niggling that he had started.

Tell him that. I asked my ds how he would feel if we all did that? What if his dad started calling him vile names because he was a bit annoyed? Or I did it? What a horrible environment to live in.

Turns out he actually said 'bugger off' which, although it's not great, is a lot better. He's apologised and there is peace.

Good point, @Charles11.

Thanks, all. Happy Friday!!

"Bugger off" or "bog off" are par for the course in this house. Usually done in at least semi jest and not venomously. It is something we keep amongst ourselves and all are aware that there is a time and a place etc. Mind you, my three are 25, 22 and 18 now, and usually very good friends so not an issue.

Sounds like you have it all sorted now anyway, so I would let it lie too.