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How is this a humane way to carry on?

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Thiscantgoon · 22/01/2021 15:28

DH is in hospital, in a lot of pain, unable to get out of bed. No visitors allowed. He's just been told there's very little they can do for him, except try to manage the pain. He has 18-24 months.

How can it possibly be acceptable, in a civilised society that he has to hear that news alone with no one to hug him?

I know it's no one's fault, he's far from the only one in this situation, but that makes it worse not better. There are numerous peope living out their last months in this ridiculous limbo with no human contact.

Plus, despite being a decidedly unhuggy person, I have never needed a hug more in my entire life and there's literally no one I can have one with.

How/why are we prepared to stand for this and for how much longer?

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 22/01/2021 15:32

I am so sorry. This is not humane. You should be allowed to visit.

There are no other words Flowers

ComDummings · 22/01/2021 15:34

@AnyFucker

I am so sorry. This is not humane. You should be allowed to visit.

There are no other words Flowers

I can’t say it better than this at all ^ I’m so sorry OP
MrsTerryPratchett · 22/01/2021 15:38

I'm so sorry OP. And yes, hugging is needed when you are feeling this way.

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smallandimperfectlyformed · 22/01/2021 15:39

Oh my goodness I am so sorry. There is nothing I can say or do to make it better but that is such awful news. I am so sorry for you and your husband Flowers

SionnachRua · 22/01/2021 15:43

So, so cruel. You should be allowed to visit, he (and you!) shouldn't have to bear this burden alone.

Thiscantgoon · 22/01/2021 19:09

Thank you. It's not right but I've no idea what's to be done about it.

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DaisyDreaming · 22/01/2021 19:26

It’s not a case of ‘standing for this’, they are trying to stop people like your husband being killed quickly by covid but I’m so so sorry that you weren’t allowed to be there for that awful conversation. The same happened to my friend.

Is he going to be in hospital much longer? Sometimes disabled or terminally ill people are allowed someone with them. Sometimes they have to have a swab first.

It’s utterly heartbreaking and I’m so sorry your husband and you aren’t together to process such bad news

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