Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Hand holding or even a good shake

14 replies

Blac · 21/01/2021 20:57

Hi everyone,

First Post but a long time lurker and love reading all the threads.

So basically I need my hand held or a good shake/slap. This is probably going to be long and disjointed so apologies in advance.

So 3 weeks ago I was rushed into hospital with a suspected ectopic, I had pain in my right side and shoulder with arm pains. I was kept in for the night for obs and was sent home after doctor cleared it feeling my belly saying he couldn't feel anything. The next night I had bleeding which got heavy as the night went on, I was miscarriaging so I rang gyne back up and the nurse told me to come in so in I went expecting to have a scan ect just to make sure it was defo a miscarriage and not an ectopic as I had pain in right side and bleeding, now I'm not one to talk bad about our NHS especially in these current circumstances but the doctor was the rudest lady I've ever met, she done me an internal (sorry TMI) and said okay pop your trousers back on the pain was a cyst (no scan) and left i got dressed and sat in the room waiting for her return after 5 minutes I went out to find out where she was, I found her at her desk writing a report I ask if I was allowed to leave, she said yes and turned around not even saying bye. Im none the wiser and just went home I was feeling awful and just wanted to get home to my kids, that night my anxiety was through the roof i was so nervous and scared I was having an ectopic pregnancy and running the possibilities over and over in my mind, I was dizzy sick couldn't keep anything down and still in pain the next day I went to a&e thinking something terrible was happening, the told me my blood completely clear again no scan was offered. I went home and my anxiety got worse and worse to the point of panic attacks I had to ring my husband to come home from work twice (I have 2 disabled children who couldn't help me if I collapsed ect) now having enough of being dizzy sick tired not being able to eat still on pain right side I went to my gp as I was so anxious and stressed I had no idea what the hell was going on was it a miscarriage was it an ectopic why am I so dizzy what is a cyst? Nothing had been explained to me previously and my mind was going mental. GP done an internal took bloods (all clear) and told me she would get me a scan to put my mind at rest. I also told her I felt like I had thrush or a uti (again tmi) coming but said where I'd had lots of internals and was wearing pads it might have been the cause, I felt finally someone listened to my concerns and doing something about it, 2 days later I started going to the toilet but only a trickle would come out so done as the doctor said and spoke to a nurse she gave me antibiotics and told me to do a swab and wee test, over the weekend I was thinking why aren't these antibiotics working I was stressing myself out completel, come Monday my results were back from wee test all clear so why am I only doing a trickle then? Well the next nights were awful I couldn't empty my bladder for love nor money and I was getting more and more stressed until I had a panic attack again hardly slept and cried most of the night. Rang the doctors again and this time was a different doctor I told her everything broke down In tears, she told me I was suffer severe stress and anxiety and put me on antidepressants and referred me to counselling, done me an internal again and said she feels something although I'm not surprised I had been straining for a wee for 2 nights and felt like id pulled something. She told me I was having physical symptoms of anxiety so here comes the real point of my post is that, I can't eat or when I do I feel full quickly I had abandoned pain still although not as bad at all I hardly notice it, and always on the loo, now I'm completely and totally terrified I have ovarian cancer because of my cyst and other symptoms even though it could all be down to my anxiety....im completely overwhelming and scared, my scan is Monday and I'm dreading it! Any advice or words of wisdom would be hugely appreciated, I have 2 very dependant children and it scares me half to death that I may have cancer Sad

OP posts:
bearlyactive · 22/01/2021 07:35

Can't believe this has had no answers, bumping for you!

Howmanysleepsnow · 22/01/2021 07:42

Are you pregnant? It’s not clear from your post , sorry.

Crowsandshivers · 22/01/2021 07:47

You poor thing. I'm appalled on your behalf that not more has been done for you. How is the pain? Have you miscarried? If not then are they sure it isn't ectopic? I've had an ectopic and was seen the same day it was suspected and spent a whole day waiting for bloods and scans for confirmation. I can't believe they haven't done this yet.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

idontlikealdi · 22/01/2021 08:09

Sorry I'm a bit confused.

Are you / were you pregnant?

Do you have a history of anxiety?

What were they looking for by doing an internal exam?

TheDaydreamBelievers · 22/01/2021 08:19

Hey @Blac poor you, I really feel for you!

When you say suspected ectopic/miscarriage- hadyou been trying to conceive and had positive pregnancy tests?

Where was the cyst they suspect? Cysts in many parts of the body can be totally normal and not cancer -i have an ovarian cyst and its nothing!

It sounds as if you may now be developing some health anxiety but you have been through the mill and they have been v unhelpful!

Try deep breathing and try to sleep as much as you can and eat good healthy foods little and often and drink lots of water

TuckItInYourHeart · 22/01/2021 08:31

Sorry if my post was unclear, yes I was pregnant but had a miscarriage my hcg level dropped to 10 so the nurse was happy to confirm miscarriage, I think I let my mind run wild, I witnessed my mum collapse due to an ectopic pregnancy and where I had no scan to detect there was no ectopic I was terrified that some thing would happen to me when I was alone with my children, one of my children is completely non verbal and its scared me half to death and now I've snowballed and fearing the worst about everything.

I have suffered with anxiety before when my son was diagnosed with a terminal condition, I think me thinking that I was having a ectopic and could potentially die trigger my anxiety again but this time its so much worse.

I have no idea what the were looking for while doing an internal as nothing was or has been explained to me. The pain is on my right side (hasn't be confirmed as I haven't had a scan) I wish they scanned me 3 weeks ago as I may not be in this mess with panic attack ect I've been left wondering and waiting and its done me no favours.

Thank you so much for your replies I great appreciate it.

TuckItInYourHeart · 22/01/2021 08:31

I changed my username for something more fitting ❤

TuckItInYourHeart · 22/01/2021 08:33

Hasn't been confirmed as a cyst that should say.

Howmanysleepsnow · 22/01/2021 08:40

So sorry about your miscarriage Flowers Hopefully the scan helps clear things up. It’s awful they didn’t do one sooner. On the positive side, at least your symptoms have improved, which makes it hugely unlikely to be cancer: cysts can burst and the pain eases, cancer would keep growing. So all in all, it’s looking hopeful.

TuckItInYourHeart · 22/01/2021 08:47

Thank you very much, me too although right now its done more harm than good as I've been obsessively googling ovarian cancer and got myself into a state completely and utterly. No professional has even mentioned cancer, i wish the gyne doctor never mentioned the cyst as she had no evidence for it and now ive drove my self insane for 3 weeks. put two and two together and got 12, I was in tears last night! Anxiety is an extremely lonely and awful feeling. Trying to be positive but its very hard at the mo! Im so grateful for all your replies.

TuckItInYourHeart · 25/01/2021 11:55

I thought I would come and update, I had my scan this morning no concerning cysts or features....phew its been a rough 3 weeks but im glad it's over.

Thank you to everyone who commented Smile

GooodMythicalMorning · 25/01/2021 12:00

Did u ever work out what caused your pain etc?

TuckItInYourHeart · 25/01/2021 13:38

@GooodMythicalMorning

Did u ever work out what caused your pain etc?
I do have a collapsing corpus luteum, she told me its completely normal given my circumstances of a miscarriage and also my anxiety has played a huge part in all of this,
GooodMythicalMorning · 26/01/2021 12:31

yeah. Its glad you got an answer.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page