My kids are 17 and 21. When they were young my husband left everything to me and I mean everything. We had the same row which consisted of me asking him to do some of the thinking involved in our life. He always worked and didnt spend much money or go out so I thought I was lucky. I am now shattered and ready to try to drop back a bit. My husband has recently discovered the kids and is now best friends with them both - laughing and joking around with them. I feel so resentful. I am like a big grump hanging round the house while they are larking about. I am so sad. I want to shout that everything we ever did and everywhere we ever went was because of me. And it was. Am I being ridiculous?