SAHM and money issues?

[Lostsheep123]

I have become a SAHM 3 months ago. I was working full-time. But working, looking after my 5 year old was taking a toll on our relationship so the OH said that as he earns enough to support us both that I should become a SAHM and he'll give me money every month for food shopping ect. So I left my job and now he isn't supporting me. I've been using my savings so far and now I'm down to pennies. To make matters worse he has been making comments all the time calling me lazy and useless, and when confronted about it he says he's just "joking". Im doing the best I can around the house, but I'm struggling especially with homeschooling on top of all of the housework. I'm 15 weeks pregnant and I'm no longer fitting in my clothes and I can't afford to get any. I have tried looking for work but I can't find anything due to being pregnant. Everytime i confront my OH about these issues he makes out that I should be grateful because I don't have to go to work and that there is lots of people in 3rd world countries with nothing. Is there any other SAHM who feels this way or went through this? I really need advice on what to do.

I'm sorry that you've ended up with such an awful, abusive arsehole.

I think moving in with your mum is a good plan. Men like this never change.

Try and embrace your anger - how dare he treat you like this! Make sure you go through CSA for maintainable for the baby too.

Bloody hell OP this is emotional and financial abuse. He’s persuaded you to leave you job, told you he’d support you, failed to support you and is now undermining you and deliberately eroding your confidence and sense of self - all while you are pregnant with his child?

Really good you can move in with your mum. Good advice above on claiming for benefits and child support from him.

You cannot stay with this abusive man.

"He hasn't been happy with me for a while"
I'm sorry what? Where is his responsibility for the relationship?
Echoing PP this is cold calculated and designed to blame you for everything.
You are better than this sorry excuse. He has drawn a line in the sand, use that line to stop yourself going back.
Its going to be really hard but you owe it to yourself and your kids.
No one is going to judge you. Life is sometimes shitty for all of us in different ways. We can choose who we surround ourselves with and you can choose not to surround yourself with shitty people whoever they are.
On a practical note - you will definitely be entitled to maternity allowance. Not sure about others!!
Whenever it feels insurmountable come on here and you will have your own personal support army!!
Xx

That is so cold and calculating. Please be careful as you prepare to leave. It can be a very dangerous time in a relationship and he does not sound like a remotely decent human being.

Wow OP, what a nasty abusive arsehole he is.
Do you think he’ll step up to support his child when the baby comes?
Doesn’t sound like he will tbh.

So I left my job and now he isn't supporting me.

Oh, goodness, I'm so sorry. What do these men think they are doing ?

Just seen your update. Hope your mother is supportive and can help you with the practicalities. We will be here to support you too