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DH in hospital 2 weeks and I can't speak to a doctor

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SpanishChard · 20/01/2021 18:35

He was admitted via A&E two weeks ago.

Many problems, most, if not all of which are caused by cancer, which was identified in mid December.

They've told him treatment will be chemotherapy but he's too unwell to have it atm. It's unclear what will change to make him well enough.

I can't see him because of Covid. I'm speaking to him daily but he's in a lot of pain, on a lot of drugs and a bit vague about it all.

I've tried to call the ward but there's never any answer. He's asked them to call me, which they said they will, but they haven't.

I know they're under tremendous pressure, the last thing I want is to be a nuisance but is it unreasonable to want to be able to speak to "someone" about what's happening, what happens next and when?

DH is full of praise for the daily care he's getting but shares my frustrations regarding the lack of clarity around his treatment. If it is that they can't treat him indefinitely or for considerable time, we need them to tell us that and what the implications are. DH would like me to talk to them, he wants the support of having someone speaking up for him.

What do I do next? Should I do anything?

OP posts:
Crikeycroc · 20/01/2021 21:55

Have you asked him to pass your number on to his cancer nurse? She will probably have an overall understanding of what is going on with him and can liaise with the treating team if there’s anything you need more clarity around.
Unfortunately, for many patients with cancer their treatment will be delayed by periods of ill health without a definite end date. What were the symptoms he presented to hospital with? Have you been given a prognosis?

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