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Need reassurance and/or a kick please! Scared

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confusedofengland · 18/01/2021 22:57

DH has just taken DS1 to the OOH based in our local hospital & I can't stop worrying.

DS is 12, normally fit & healthy. Yesterday morning he woke up complaining of stomach pain. I gave my stock reaction which was to tell him to do a poo & have some food, as ime these normally help. He is also prone to exaggerating, as he told me himself, so I thought he was doing that. He threw up a little later on & didn't move or eat much for the rest of the day. We thought tummy bug. He woke up 3 times in the night, so we gave Calpol & got him to drink water.

He felt a lot better this morning but still obviously not right. He did his schoolwork today (no live lessons), although slower than usual & taking lots of breaks. Has only eaten a few crackers & a spoonful of rice, no appetite. He didn't move much as he said it hurts a lot when he moves.

This evening we sent him to bed at about 7.30. He has been doubled up in agony since eating a few spoons of rice at about 6.30pm. Sobbing, can't get comfortable, even with medicine & hot water bottle etc. We rang 111 as we were worried by this point & they asked us to bring him in. So now I am waiting & have convinced myself it could be all sorts Sad I also feel bad for having been so dismissive yesterday Sad

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73kittycat73 · 18/01/2021 23:16

Don't feel bad, your not a Dr so couldn't tell if it was serious or not. I hope he is OK and that he's back home with you soon.
Take care.

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confusedofengland · 18/01/2021 23:18

DH has just rang from OOH & they have taken him up to the hospital as they think it might be appendicitis Sad

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QuantumQuality · 18/01/2021 23:19

It does sound a lot like appendicitis. He’s in the right place and they’ll be able to treat him.

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wheretoyougonow · 18/01/2021 23:23

Don't feel bad, it sounds like you've done the right thing. There is no way you can predict the outcome at the beginning.
Hope that he recovers quickly and will be home soon. Your not going to sleep tonight so try and find something to distract you Thanks

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confusedofengland · 19/01/2021 00:25

He's just had a blood test & apparently feeling a bit happier in himself, reassured I suppose. Chatting about the idea of staying in & having a TV to himself! Results of blood test not for an hour at least.

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NannyGythaOgg · 19/01/2021 00:46

I had that three times as a young teen before they took my appendix out. Each of the first 2 times it resolved itself and I was diagnosed with a grumbling appendix (something that according to some professionals doesn't exist) the third time it didn't resolve and I had my appendix out. My younger brother started with something similar a few years later but his didn't resolve the first time and he had his appendix out.

Bloody painful but a relatively simple operation/cure.

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confusedofengland · 19/01/2021 02:22

DH messaged to say that blood tests say most likely appendicitis. They will review at 6.30am then probably remove if everything is the same.

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Sunnysausage · 19/01/2021 02:29

Sounds as if they have a plan. Presumably DH will stay with him and you’re stuck at home with other DC? Are you able to try to get a little bit of sleep now you know he is more comfortable? I know from experience how scary surgery on your child is, but (if he does have to have it out) it will be a very familiar procedure for them.

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confusedofengland · 19/01/2021 02:37

Yes, that's right, DH is with him , I'm here with our 6 & 9-year old Dses. Trying to get some sleep before homeschooling tomorrow but my brain won't stop! Thank you for your supportive message, it means a lot to have somebody to 'talk' to.

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Sunnysausage · 19/01/2021 02:47

I have 3 DSs as well (I think that’s what you said) - not sure why I am awake now with another day of home schooling and work tomorrow Hmm... Who don’t you read/watch something mindless and see if you can doze off? Hope all is nice and quiet for your DS overnight, and he (and your DH) get some sleep as well...

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LividLoving · 19/01/2021 03:06

Hope you’ve managed to get some sleep and that your boy is feeling better soon x

AmelieTaylor · 19/01/2021 03:15

Oh poor sausage. I had mine out a few years ago. I wish I'd had my Dad with me! They did mine at midnight as they said it couldn't wait. Hopefully they can do it keyhole. I was in quite a bit of pain for a few days, then it seemed to get better then more pain a few days later - just thought I'd say so you don't think he's swinging the lead if his recovery isn't linear!

Losttheequipment · 19/01/2021 03:20

Try to get some sleep, they will sort him out in the morning and in the meantime he will have painkillers. Kids bounce back very quickly Smile

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confusedofengland · 19/01/2021 06:44

Thank you. I went to bed in the end but didn't sleep much. It sounds like they are being well looked after & DS hasn't got any worse overnight.

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SandysMam · 19/01/2021 06:47

Forget about home schooling today! Message the teacher and say what has happened and have a lazy day with your little ones. Hope your big DS recovers well Flowers

joystir59 · 19/01/2021 06:50

Hope he is all sorted out and back home soon. He is in the right place and has his dad with him so try to relax a bit. You did nothing wrong. Waiting to see how he went on with simple remedies was normal.

Sunnysausage · 19/01/2021 08:24

Glad to hear DS is no worse - fingers crossed they sort him out today.

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confusedofengland · 19/01/2021 08:47

We've just heard they will operate this morning. Seen anaesthetist already. So that's positive.

Sitting here sobbing my heart out (still) & wishing I had believed him & could be with him. Every hour feels like a day Sad

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BorisandHarriet · 19/01/2021 09:34

If they left him overnight and didn’t do an emergency operation when he arrived then it doesn’t seem like you not believing him at first will have made any difference to the overall outcome. He’s in the right place now and you reacted accordingly when things seemed to get more serious last night. Nobody can tell with an initial vague stomach ache that it could end up being appendicitis.

I’d be exactly the same with my boys. We’ve told them the story of the boy who cried wolf many times but they’re still prone to exaggeration.

As a PP said, don’t worry about home schooling today unless your children actively want to do it, get some films lined up to watch with the little ones today while you wait for more news.

Terracottasaur · 19/01/2021 10:03

Poor lamb, appendicitis is a nasty one! Please don’t feel bad - it’s one of those illnesses that can start mildly and then escalate fast. I sat my final uni exam with appendicitis because I assumed I just felt ill from burning the midnight oil too much.
You weren’t to know from the outset what it was, and it sounds like you acted quickly when it was needed.

Hope your boy is on the mend soon. I’d get in some nice treats for his recovery.

MotherofTerriers · 19/01/2021 10:07

Forget home schooling for today OP, curl up and watch a movie with your little ones. Maybe plan some treats for when he comes home with them, they could make get well cards, a welcome home banner? Read up about how his recovery is likely to go, make sure you have suitable food in etc

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confusedofengland · 19/01/2021 10:16

Does anybody know if we are likely to have to isolate when he gets home? I need to go shopping but can't with the other 2 & car at hospital (DS2 is autistic & they play up together so shopping on my own with them is to be avoided).

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confusedofengland · 19/01/2021 11:47

He's out. DH is just going to see him. Never wanted to see him as much as I do now 😭

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Santaiscovidfree · 19/01/2021 11:51

My ds 19 had his out last year. 5 weeks before his army training start date!! His appendix had burst and we were packed to go on holiday the day he went on! So much bad timing!!
He was declared fit enough to go to camp so ended well!
Grin
Bet your ds will appreciate lots of cold treats when he gets home!