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Lonely - anyone fancy a chat?

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JamBagel · 18/01/2021 20:24

I'm feeling lonely and at a bit of a loose end tonight. TV is on in the background but I can't find anything that's really interesting me. I've had long conversations with both of my parents and my closest friend over the past few days so don't really want to pester any of them today. Is anyone else feeling lonely and would like a chat? How was your day? I've just signed up to be a volunteer telephone befriender so if that goes ahead hopefully it will be beneficial for me and whoever I befriend.

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Hopeitsallok · 18/01/2021 20:53

Hello 👋

Feeling a bit low myself today so actually heading to bed now. Saw your message and thought I’d say hi!
Sorry to hear you’re feeling a bit lonely 🙁. That’s a terrific thing you’re doing signing up to be a telephone befriended, that will make a huge difference to someone’s life and hopefully lift your spirits too.

Sosigsandwich · 18/01/2021 20:54

I like to chat!! Had a busy day working in retail and currently sat with pringles watching MAFS Australia

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JamBagel · 18/01/2021 21:06

@Hopeitsallok Hello! I'm sorry that you're not feeling great either. I hope an early night does you some good. I am a little worried about running out of things to say but hopefully it will be a good experience. If you are still feeling a bit low tomorrow hopefully there will still be a chat going on here if you would like to drop in Smile

@Sosigsandwich I bet working in retail is absolutely exhausting at the moment - I bet you're knackered! I've never watches MAFS Australia (or any other location) but I've heard lots of people say it's good so maybe I should give it a go. Is Australia better than the UK version?

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OxoMonarch · 18/01/2021 21:10

I've had a busy day - 4 lessons plus a meeting on google meet. I'm all talked out. Well done for doing the telephone thing, I know I couldn't.

At the moment I have loads of health niggles. Impending thrush, tendonitis in one foot, bloating. I'm sure all of it is because I'm stuck inside with not enough exercise. Just feeling a bit meh about everything. And fighting the urge to eat junk - I'm not eating after 6pm in a bid to lose weight.

EssentialHummus · 18/01/2021 21:14

Another one heading to bed here ahead of an early start tomorrow (I run a food bank and need to go in early to haul things out of freezers). I’m feeling a bit glum and lonely; I think the isolation and difficulty of lockdown has finally hit me and I’m feeling a bit short of company.

Sorry to hear about your health issues oxo, not the easiest time to be going through things like that.

OxoMonarch · 18/01/2021 21:20

Thanks @EssentialHummus I'm going to head out on a bike ride tomorrow lunchtime, and have resolved to do a 500calorie day, that should fix the bloating at least. Enjoy your early night, I'm considering a hot water bottle and bed myself.

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JamBagel · 18/01/2021 21:25

@OxoMonarch I don't think I could handle all that talking in one day! I'm assuming you're a teacher - what's it like? I have always thought primary teaching would be quite nice but have been told it's a lot of work! Sorry to hear about your health problems - I hope you feel better soon. Being cooped up is awful for bloating.

@EssentialHummus That doesn't sound like much fun but I'm sure the food bank users will be very thankful for your efforts - what an important job. I feel the same way - I've been mostly fine since this all kicked off, but it's all got too much lately and I've started feeling very isolated.

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EssentialHummus · 18/01/2021 21:58

What do you think has caused the shift in you jam, if I can ask? I don’t know what’s up with me as nothing has changed externally but good god it’s all suddenly like wading through treacle here.

(Plan to get an early night going brilliantly here Grin)

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JamBagel · 18/01/2021 22:04

@EssentialHummus You're clearly not tired enough Grin. It's a bit depressing really, but my partner had a bit of a mental health crisis towards the end of last year that culminated in him attempting suicide and I keep thinking it's going to happen again. I don't want to unload on him for obvious reasons and it's made me feel very alone I've felt sick with dread every day for months (not to make the situation all about me as he is obviously worse off!)

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keepingmindful · 18/01/2021 22:14

Hello, sorry that you are feeling lonely. I have felt lonely in the past and it isn’t a nice feeling. You are doing really well to acknowledge it and doing something about it by reaching out and volunteering. It won’t last forever, I promise. Well done you! Sending love x

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JamBagel · 18/01/2021 22:16

@keepingmindful That's very nice of you to say - thank you. It's comforting to hear that it won't last forever x

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EssentialHummus · 18/01/2021 22:19

Gah jam, that sounds tough. I’m sorry. Very isolating living with someone suffering like that.

keepingmindful · 18/01/2021 22:22

Funnily enough I now am married and have 4 children and actually strive to being by myself for a few seconds. I also know what it’s like to be close to someone who has severe mental health issues and doesn’t want to live, and to feel sick and on edge everytime they are around, constantly being vigilant. It’s a horrible feeling especially when there isn’t much you can do to help. Look after yourself, it isn’t your fault and your life is just as important xx

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JamBagel · 18/01/2021 22:33

@JamBagel Thanks - it is. I hope the worst of it is over but I don't want to get too hopeful.

@keepingmindful Thank you. It's nice to speak to someone who understands x

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keepingmindful · 02/02/2021 18:56

@JamBagel

I'm feeling lonely and at a bit of a loose end tonight. TV is on in the background but I can't find anything that's really interesting me. I've had long conversations with both of my parents and my closest friend over the past few days so don't really want to pester any of them today. Is anyone else feeling lonely and would like a chat? How was your day? I've just signed up to be a volunteer telephone befriender so if that goes ahead hopefully it will be beneficial for me and whoever I befriend.
Hope you are feeling less lonely now, Jam x
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JamBagel · 03/02/2021 22:20

@keepingmindful Aw, thanks so much for checking up on me - that's very kind of you. Still not feeling 100%, but I have been making an effort to speak to my family more, and have tried to nurture a couple of old friendships. I have also signed up as a volunteer telephone befriender, so hopefully I can help someone feeling isolated at the same time as having someone new to speak to regularly. I hope all is well with you x

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BigGreen · 03/02/2021 22:25

Jam have you ever thought of getting some counselling for yourself? My DH had some similar challenges and I didn't realise until later how traumatic I had found it, how much it had changed the dynamics of our relationship. I'd recommend it if you possibly have the funds, or was an important part of us healing together and moving on. My DH is in great shape now, sending much love Thanks

I'm waiting for some heavy duty health results so not feeling that chipper. Hope tomorrow will be better x

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JamBagel · 03/02/2021 22:32

@BigGreen I have thought about it, but I would feel guilty bringing it up as I don't want it to be all about me when he is going through much worse. It could be helpful though so I won't write it off - but maybe I will wait until things (hopefully) get better in the future. I'm glad that it helped you.

I'm sorry to hear that - I hope you get good news and that tomorrow is a better day x

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